We are already receiving wedding gifts. Our wedding is next month. We pre-ordered our thank you cards with our invitations, so they say Mr. & Mrs..........on them. Should we wait until after the wedding to start sending out thank you cards?
2007-09-24 04:39:40 · 17 answers · asked by beth v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Send them out as soon as you get the gift. Trust me - your writing hand will thank you, your guests will appreciate your prompt response, and you will reduce the chance of overlooking a gift or misplacing an identifying card/tag. Use your Mr/Mrs. cards -- in your note, just say something like, "we know it's not official yet, but we were so excited to receive your gift that we couldn't wait to use our 'married' cards." The giver will be so impressed by a fast acknowledgement that I doubt he/she would care that it's technically a few weeks too early to be using Mr/Mrs cards.
Here's a tip that helped me a lot -- Dump your wedding invite list and addresses into an Excel spreadsheet. Set up columns for "gifts," "date received," and "date thank you sent." Keep this list updated as you receive gifts and as you send out thank you cards. That way, if your mom calls and says "Aunt Jane wants to know if you received the teakettle she sent a month ago," you can check your list, tell you mom that you got it two weeks ago, and that the thank you card went out last week.
Good luck, and congrats!
2007-09-24 08:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emily-Post-etiquette says that you should send a thank-you note within two weeks of receiving the gift if it's before the wedding, and within a month of returning from your honeymoon if received at or just after the wedding. You'll also want to send thank-yous as you get gifts just so that you can keep up with it and not have to write them all at once. Send them now. It doesn't matter that the thank-you cards have Mrs. and Mrs on them.
2007-09-24 04:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would send out a thank you note right away. I'd buy some cheap cards that say thank you on them. Save the Mr. and Mrs. cards to send out for gifts received at the wedding.
2007-09-24 06:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by clg1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl. I just got married in June and I am the Thank You note expert (having had to write 250+). You need to get started NOW. I ordered ones with "Mr and Mrs" that I used for after the wedding. Personally, I think it is ok to use them before the wedding. I went to Wal-mart and bought packs of pretty thank you notes for pretty cheap that I used before the wedding and used the "Mr and Mrs" after the wedding. But you need to start NOW! Because they back up and can actually get quite stressful! So if you start now, it will make it easier on you. Trust me. Congrats and good luck!
2007-09-24 07:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by mattsbaby125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ERK is right, any gifts received BEFORE the wedding should be acklowledged by a thank you note within 2 weeks of receipt, and gifts received at the wedding or after should be acklowledged within a month, 2 at the most. Especially if people have ordered gifts from a store, your thank you note lets them know for sure their gift arrived safely.
2007-09-24 04:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since yours say "mr & mrs" you should definitely wait until after the wedding. However, you may want to thank these people either in a friendly phone call or email...just to acknowledge the fact you received the gifts and it has arrived safely. As a gift giver who gets things shipped to the recipients, I often worry about the package not arriving or getting damaged.
2007-09-24 04:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thank you's for wedding gifts should be mailed out within 30 days after the wedding. This gives the bride and groom time to enjoy thier honeymoon before they get back home to open gifts and send out the thank you's.
2007-09-24 06:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I am waiting until after the wedding to send out any thank you cards, then they could simply be mailed out at once. You could save time by writing them now if you wish.
2007-09-24 07:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't wait to send out Thank You Cards for gifts. Just go buy some nice thank you cards at the store. Send them out asap. Look at it this way, It is one less thing you have to worry about later and your friends and family will greatly appreciate it that you took the time to say "Thank you". In your busy schedule. Best Wishes to you on your special day.
2007-09-24 05:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after the wedding!
2007-09-24 04:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋