It was only like a year ago I was pretty positive, upbeat kind of guy. I was a good christian, but I was never one to tell people how to live their lives.
Now, though, I'm a totally different person. I mean, I *act* the same, when I'm around friends and family, but I feel so worthless anymore. Thanks to some really shitty friends, and the people I once loved treating me like I'm totally useless, I've lost all faith in God. It's not that I'm "angry" with him (I was at one point, though), but I have lost the belief of his existance.
The thing is, I feel like my life has no meaning anymore. I question why I still go on, when my life shows no hope of improving. I think the worst thing, is I feel *I'm* the one to blame, and that makes me dislike myself anymore. I'm really self-conscious, plus overweight, so I really just feel more and more like a total failure.
What's happened to me? And what can I possibly do to add meaning to my life? Is there a way to become religious again?
2007-09-24 04:37:33 · 17 answers · asked by Jared C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Btw, I'm only 19, lol. I guess I think about life a lot more than others my age.
2007-09-24 04:42:32 · update #1
Get new friends, eat right and excercise, and pray.
2007-09-24 04:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk with a therapist. There are therapists who specialize in crisis of faith, if that is important to you.
I don't think losing one's faith is a bad thing - I was acually happier when I lost mine. But since your loss makes you feel worthless, this is something you should address.
Edit: You are only 19? Well, then I would call this a coming to terms with who you are. We tend to mimick the religion of our parents/family/friends when we are younger. You are just starting to form your own opinions. You are actually finding your worth. And, in the end, you may come back to religion. You just need to find your own route.
2007-09-24 11:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by ms_coktoasten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can become religious again..God never leaves or forsakes us.. He always loves us no matter how worthless you feel to yourself God always thinks your special..when you took God out of your life and started losing faith your life had no meaning anymore..put God back in and your life will be meaningful again..read Luke 15 the story othe the prodigal son he went away from his Father and did all kind of bad when he came back his Father welcomed him with open arms threw a big party for him an everything the same way our Father does when we come back to him. He rejoices and welcomes us with a really big hug..my Brother i pray for you to turn your life back to Jesus..if you have any questions or want to talk please contact me..i used to hate God ..im still fat ..but now i love God and He loves me no matter how over weight i am..and now he has me Preaching his word..
2007-09-24 11:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by revbill_ussery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, that is pretty bad for a young man.
You need a different set of friends, and you need some major help: You sound like you're suffering from depression. If nothing else, try to find an older man to talk to. You may find that he's been where you are now and knows how to get out.
Good luck!
2007-09-24 14:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you do not have a vision for your life. God said "Without a vision my people perish". It could be you also have depression. You need to seek medical council and see if there are any imbalances chemically, There is no shame in seeing a Dr. God did give them to us for a reason. Also find some spirit filled friends, and a spirit filled church. God may be wanting to do a work with in your life....Maybe he is calling you for a special work. also you mentioned your weight maybe you can join a gym or start a exercise program
2007-09-24 18:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rev.Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jared,
Some of the answers you've received were good. I'd like to add something else. It sounds like you've been really hurt by your friends. Unfortunately, that happens to most of us, but the most important thing you can do is to forgive them. Jesus, when He was on the earth, did nothing but good to people, but look what they did to Him. As He hung on the cross dying, He asked His Father to forgive them, for they knew not what they were doing. That is the key to healing and restoration of your heart. You will find release, and a renewed relationship with the Lord. Remember, the Lord's Prayer says, Forgive my trespasses as I have forgiven those who trespass against me. This is a major key to growth and emotional and spiritual health. I pray this helps you.
2007-09-24 13:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't enough details to truly answer your question, but I have a question for you: why would you blame God because of what your friends did to you? Isn't that blaming Him for something He didn't do? He is able to heal you of all your sorrows, IF you let Him. So why would you push away the only One who could make you feel better?
2007-09-24 11:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With or without a god to live for- your life will continue to have no meaning unless you give it meaning.
You don't need a god for this- nor does anyone else. Theists who wish to attribute their purpose for life to a god are missing the point that it is THEIR CHOICE to make their life hold meaning in this way. There ARE other things to live for.
2007-09-24 11:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has nothing to do with your religion. I think you just lost faith in yourself. We all feel a little down about life in general at times. What is good about your life? What are your passions? What are you grateful for? Find what is positive in your life and concentrate on that. We all need a good reason to carry on!.......so to speak!....Happiness is inside you let it out!!...good luck!~
2007-09-24 11:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by ask me a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you sort of expected God to protect you from tragedy and pain. He did not even do that for his first born son, Jesus our brother. Jesus was rejected, a man of sorrows, aquainted with grief. He said the world hated him, and will hate us too. I think you need to look in the phone book under Charismatic churches, ask God to show you where to go and find a holy ghost filled pastor to pray for you and then go from there. Tell him honestly what you are going through and that you would like to believe in God again. I think you probably need to "feel" his presence. Remember that looking for the things of God is like the pearl of great price, or looking for buried treasure. God does ask that we make an effort to seek him. this is because satan and the demons are watching us and accusing God of being too generous, too nice and satan accuses him (God) of not honoring his own word. therefore all must seek, in order to fine the treasures of heaven. I think you are going to make it.
2007-09-24 11:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by sisterzeal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they're called hormones...
Everyone is crazy, until about age 25. But you should look into a psychologist, they will be able to help you work through any problems you are having and restore your self-esteem.
If it makes you feel better, we've all gone through what you're going through. We've all had crappy times. But when they last too long, you need to look around and find someone (qualified) who can help you get back to normal.
2007-09-24 11:44:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋