I found out yesterday that my boyfriend has an account on fling.com, a site that people go to for sex. When I asked him about it he said his friend told him about the site and said that chicks they grew up with were on the site and he just wanted to see the pics. However when I went to him profile, he indicated that he was 8 inches and wanted to make people *** and that he was looking for a good time. He said he only put that stuff because you have to make the profile believable. Well I think he's lying, but to make me feel better he deleted the account, now he's trying to turn it around like i want to sleep with someone else and I'm using this as my excuse.
What do you think?
2007-09-24 04:31:29 · 60 answers · asked by Pinky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG, I had someone do that EXACT same thing to me!!! I mean my story is almost word for word the same as yours!! That is so crazy!!
Here is what I did. I made an account on the same websight, and sent him an email saying I wanted to meet up with him and....well....you know, Guess what? He answered me back and said he wanted to meet up ASAP. I kicked his cheating butt to the curb.
You might have some trouble with that since he already deleted his account. But if you check his computer history, you can see if he started up a new account on another websight. I might take a few weeks before he does it again, since you caught him red handed. The most important thing you should do when you catch him in the act is to print out EVERYTHING you find so you have evidence. If he is anything like my ex, he will try to tell everyone else that you are lying. But he cant do that if you have proof!!
Dont feel bad, its not your fault. No matter how many times he tries to make it sound like it is your fault, or that you were in the wrong, dont listen to him. Its a classic "shift the blame" move that most cheaters try to pull. Be strong, and dont let him make you believe his lies. Also, dont think that you can "rehabilitate" him so that he wont do it anymore, and you can stll stay together. I tried that, and it didnt work.
Email me if you want to talk some more. Good luck!! And remember that you deserve better!!
2007-09-24 04:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you had to ask him about it, how long has he had an account on the site? His friend told him? Was his friend a certain girl? Looking for a good time? Maybe you're not giving what he wants in the physical department. That's beside the point. He turn around and starts accusing you of something? wow, he's letting guilt come out from doing something he shouldn't have done, whether it'd be letting get his emotions running with another girl on the site, his "friend", or he's seeing someone from the site in person behind your back. Red flag is being raised, get out now.
2007-09-24 04:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he suddenly has things to do that he never had to do before...when he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his attitude toward you is changing, if he tells you he "just needs some ME time" If you live together some of these are signs too... 1. Lower desire to be with you sexually. 2. Suddenly tries new sexual positions. 3. Working late more often. 4. Mysterious phone calls. 5. Gets angry when you look at the cell phone, pager, or computer. Is secretive of such. 6. Smell of perfume on their clothing. 7. Takes a shower as soon as he comes home. 8. You find hairs or other objects on his body or in his possessions. 9. Starts taking more care with his appearance. 10. Accuses you of cheating. 11. He changes his normal routine without cause or reason.
2016-05-17 09:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the guilty are caught, they always try to blame the one who discovered their lie. He's not being truthful to you and he's trying to shift the blame on you. He feels guilty so he's trying to get you to fight with him by making you mad. This stupid tactic was played on me once by an EX boyfriend. This is the perfect time time to get this person out of your life. He was caught and at least he should have the guts to admit his error. Why would you want someone who cheats on you or puts a sexual ad describing his member on the internet? I would not be with him anymore, dump him and find someone who respects you. There are so many men out there and you will find a good guy.
2007-09-24 04:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is turning everything around I would say that he is lying and you shouldn't trust him. Plus I don't buy that "wanting to look at the pictures thing". If he would like to check out the picutres he could do it with his friend through his profile. My guess is that he was hoping that you won't find out.
I am not going to tell you to break up with him cause it is your choice and I might be worng, but that is what I think is going on
2007-09-24 04:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Malgorzata B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he's not cheating he has some problems that would make me find another boyfriend.
2007-09-24 04:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. No doubt about it. If he's accusing you he is the one that is doing it. That's how it is most of the time. Dump him before you get really hurt badly. If you have a gut feeling or an intuition that he is then its probably right. Dont ever ignore your gut feelings cause they are right!!
2007-09-24 04:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Army Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to go just to look at some people he knew, why would he use his real information? I would make up some junk just to comply with the site so I could search. I think you're on to something. Might wanna check back later to the site to see if he made another account. Always trust your woman intuitions. If you do find another site with him on it, e-mail him pretending to be someone else to see if he is willing to act on it.
2007-09-24 04:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know or not if he's cheated, we always know. Problem is whether we are able to admit that to ourselves. And as for him accusing you now of using it as a way for you to cheat, that's a classic sign he has cheated. My ex always used to accuse me of cheating and I was like are you crazy, but see because he was cheating he figured I must be too. Dump his sorry butt
xxx
2007-09-24 04:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to make you feel bad and place the blaim for his guilt. Pretty pathetic. He's lying. If it wasn't that big of a deal then he would have told you or he could have gone to myspace or something else. Or if his buddy knew the girls were on there and he wanted to see their pics then why didin't he just have him show him the pics? He's a bad liar and you should find someone who has more respect to a least think your smarter then that.
2007-09-24 04:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by ktychaos13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋