Spanking your kids Right or Wrong?

Question

Here's the deal, I am doing a speech on corpal punishment at home and it seems that everyone is against it but I am for it. I don't see anything wrong with it and I don't see any other good alternitives. I was spanked as a kid and it worked great. My dad always tells the story of my first spanking, i was like 3 so i don't remember but i threw a tantrum in the store so he spanked me. I never did it again because i learned to respect him and that what he says he means. On the other hand i know several people who don't spank their kids and they aren't well behaved at all. So my question is, is spanking the right choice and how can I explain it in a speech.

Answer 1

I think it's every family's PERSONAL choice. Ours is in agreement with you, we are very much for spanking when necessary. I'd also say, it sounds like spanking is starting to make a comeback. I'm going to be very curious as to the out come of our current generations. Then again, I believe in the older fashion style of spanking, so I must still be in the minority.

Answer 2

I think spanking is ok to an extent. My children only get a spanking when it is the last resort. If a time out isnt working or taking away whatever they have doesnt work than they will get a spanking. The other reason for a spanking would be running in the street something to show them right away like hey I am not joking around. I think only spanking a child when it is the last resort and necessary is ok. But if you spank them for everything I dont think it becomes effective anymore. My daughters only gets a spanking once every so often. So when they get a spanking they know mom is not going to mess around. If they hit eachother they stand in timeout. The majority of the time they stand in timeout because it is effective for them but I know it is not effective for everyone. I do not believe you should ever hit your child with an object. If you only do it when necessary they are going to react to the swat on the butt. If you do it often they are going to not care about the swat and then parents turn to the belt or a wooden paddle just so it hurts more. I could never bring myself to hurt my children like that. It would break my heart. I would just see how bad I hurt them and I would be able to see it in their face and there is no way I would ever bring myself to do that. You just have to be consitant and talk to your child so they know what is going on throughout the day and there are no suprises. Give them attention and love and they will give that back. I found just talking to them and giving them choices throughout the day helps make a day go a lot smoother.

Answer 3

It depends on the offense and the degree of punishment. I too was spanked as a child, my parents used the belt mostly, and sometimes it was a switch, but if neither were convenient it was a hand. It was usually on my butt, but if my parents were extraordinarily perturbed then it would be wherever it happened to hit my backside. I don't know about making me respect them, but it sure as hell made me realize that if I did something wrong I would get spanked. Which didn't detour me very much. So I guess I believe that spanking is a good thing if used at an appropriate degree to the offense. I do prefer restriction over spanking though, because that teaches children that when they do something wrong their luxuries will be cut-off until they learn to respect their parents and the provision of such luxuries; Rather than fearing a spanking for a wrong-doing. Restriction also has its cons, especially when used by power crazed parental units like I had. I lived with my dad and step-mom from the time I was 11 until I was 15 and I spent the majority of the time LOCKED in my room without television, telephone, or snacking privileges, and that was for very minor offenses.

Answer 4

I believe spanking is right for the child as long as the parent/guardian is not doing it in anger cause then that usually is a beating not a spanking. I don't think a lot of poeple know the difference though. I was spanked as a child and I have no problem spanking my child but I do keep it as a last resprt because I don't want her to get used to spankings and then they are no big deal to her. She is 7 and has not had a real spanking in almost a year (other than the occasional swat on the behind to get her to move faster) and I rarely have any problems w/ her and she ever she is w/ someone else they always comment on how well behaved she is and respectful too!

Answer 5

I am a firm believer in the power of spanking. I guess a good way to put it in your speech is as follows: (feel free to change it or add to it)

1. Look at life about 20 years back, spanking was not something that was shunned and there was far less gang violence. Children back then did not talk back to adults, they did not run the streets, and teen pregnancy was not high at all!

2. Today people are so concerned with how the child will feel after the spanking and if it will bruise their delicate egos rather than making sure they do the right things.

3. Talk about how there is a major difference between spanking a child and beating a child and how most adults confuse the two. Quick story when I was younger my mom was spanking my brother he told her he was going to call the cops on her (this was in the early 90's when people started to look at spanking as being bad) my mom handed him the phone and pressed 9-1 and told him to hit the other 1 he did and she spanked him again, the cops got there and told my mom that it was her right to spank her child and my mom spanked him in front of the cops! They told my brother to be grateful that he had a mom that cared enough to spank him that they see so many kids who's parents don't care and what happens to them.

Answer 6

Well, this can be a very heated topic in today's society. When I was a little kid, kinda similar to your story, I only got a handful of spankings and they made me learn my lesson quick and it worked!! I have a 2 year old daughter that throws the worst temper tantrums I have ever seen. My husband spanks her after he counts to 3, if she doesn't listen by the time he says 3, she gets a spanking, and she definitely listens to him. As for me, I'm stay at home mom, so she basically runs all over me! My point is, some people are totally against it, but my husband and I both grew up getting spankings when we did something wrong and we turned out great. You do what works for your family! Good luck!

Answer 7

i was spanked and it never did me any harm so i don't see what the big deal is. there is a difference between spanking and beating and as long as you know that difference i don't see anything wrong with it. i do believe you have to sit your child down and explain to them why they are being spanked so they understand and know that they will only be spanked again if they misbehave again. some people don't believe so, but kids do understand this concept and most of the time one spank is all it takes. some other punishments do not always work and only make the child act out more, but giving them a spanking lets them know you are serious and they usually stop what they are doing.

Answer 8

I don't have a problem with spanking. My boys have learned many lessons that way. They are phenominal kids! Great grades, well behaved in public and respectful of both their elders and their peers.

I've never had to spank them excessively. A couple times a year at most, during certain ages. But they know that if I feel the need that I will, and that usually is enough of a deterrent.

Good luck with your speech. There are always going to be people who disagree, just make sure that you present your ideas and thoughts in a respectful manner and you should do well.

Answer 9

You can find all kinds of arguments to back up your viewpoint either way.

However, here is my perspective -

Your point about children respecting their parents and believing that they will do what they say as a method of discipline is correct. However, it doesn't take spanking to achieve that. You can follow through on other things, like removing priveleges, putting the kids in time out, or preventing them from participating in something fun.

Spanking is the easy way out. It doesn't require as much patience as following through with other kinds of discipline and positive reinforcement.

Spanking teaches your kids that "might makes right". It doesn't teach your kids how to behave, but how not to behave. It also teaches that if they misbehave, they had better not get caught.

Spanking is not respectful of the child. It teaches the child that adults are more important. A parent cannot expect a child to respect them, if they don't reciprocate.

I know lots of badly behaved kids who are spanked and ones who are not spanked. The spanking isn't really relevant.

Good behavior comes from good modeling. If the parents set a good example and are consistent with the kids about what is allowed and what is not allowed, the children will be well behaved.

Unfortunately, parenting is a big commitment, a lot harder than it looks, and very tiring. It is more than a full time job.
It is easier to park you kids in front of a TV or Computer and then yell at them or smack them when they do something you don't like.

If you want to see some effective parenting, check out an episode of Super Nanny.

Answer 10

it really depends on the situation. A lot of people spank children for wrong reasons. Ive seen people spanking children for accidents or talking to much. Things like that are wrong. Ive spanked my little man because he wouldnt stop playing with the stove, he played with outlets and he throws himself on the ground when i tell him to hold my hand. But i also tell him clearly why hes getting the spanking. Children sometimes need that to understand the importance of a situation. My little guy doesnt care if i giving him a time out or sit him in the corner.