my grandmother is a person like this.if she doesn't like it, no one else can like it.i remember when i used to have natural (kinky) hair and i would where it in a style just like in this image
http://membres.lycos.fr/naturalelation/hpbimg/3489.jpg,she would always yell at me and tell me how i should change it because she doesn't like it and i looked like a crazy person with my hair half done and how she doesn't want that in her house. fine. i relaxed my hair now it's ''god didn't make you that way'' she argues if i want to wear my sleeves short saying how i'm naked and how a child of god is suppose to be covered and what not. when she talks to you, it's not in a i'm trying to entreat you kind of way she wells and wants it her way!!! if i want to go to my cousins house, she brings up an argument saying how girls should keep our feet in our own house and learn to cook.(if your jamaican, just imagine her saying that in a jamaican accent)lol. anyways, she yells at me
2007-09-24 04:01:53 · 21 answers · asked by U ASKED 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
in church forcing me to sit where she can see me. i'm18 years old and she treats me like i'm 4 . help. what should i do??
2007-09-24 04:02:09 · update #1
i don't live with her, i stay with her to acompany her!
2007-09-24 04:11:05 · update #2
PEOPLE. I DON'T LIVE WITH. HER
2007-09-24 04:13:43 · update #3
Move out! You're 18 and if you don't like the rules of HER house, then it's time to reside some where else. Simple!
2007-09-24 04:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough one...
The fact that you are 18 does make it sound bad.
But I don't know what sort of a person you are... nor do I know what your situation is. You don't say anything about your parents.
If there is no escape from living with your grandma... your best option is to compromise. Stop fighting her. Give a little and maybe she will also give you a little.
It is a clash of culture and generation. There is really nothing new about it. Those things happen all around the world.
2007-09-24 04:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your grandma. She comes from the "old school" and doesn't know any different. Some day she will be gone and - believe it or not - you will miss these interactions with her. You are an adult now and can speak respectfully to her and tell her, gently, that you don't agree and that you can make your own decisions now. I can just imagine how hard this could be if you live w/ her. Just remember, you are a big girl now and can fend for yourself and choose how to live your life.
2007-09-24 04:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kaliko 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres always going to be something about someone we don't like. Remember your Grandma came up in a totally different era than you and what she believes is different. She loves you and a in your heart you love her. Just understand where she is coming from she says those things out of love. Remember once she's gone, you don't get another grandma. Love and appreciate her while she is here. God Bless You both.
2007-09-24 04:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by CareBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people aren't happy with their own lives. But rather than face the situation and make changes they just vent out at others.
All you can do is love her. I wouldn't take everything she said to heart. Just know that her being grumpy may be her way of saying "Look, I'm paying attention to you, that means I love you." and sometimes, that just has to be enough.
2007-09-24 04:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by swapitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is like that. I love her with all my heart but, Lord in Heaven, does she get on my last nerve. I just try to remember she's old school and respect her cause she wont be around much longer and she's been like a mother to me. Yes, she's annoying and I wish I didn't live with her sometimes but she loves me and I love her and she has my best interest at heart.
2007-09-24 04:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by christian_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 18, if you can make a bee line out the door. I joined the Army when I was 17 to get out of the house.
2007-09-24 04:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you live under her roof, you have to followe her rules. Try to save up money and get your own place, or see if there's another relative you can live with.
Once you are out on your own, you can politely tell her that you love her, but her controls were driving you crazy. Remind her that you respect her, but ask that she respect that you are a grown woman who can and will look after yourself.
good luck!
2007-09-24 04:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandma is german and bossy and doesn't like the things i like either. If she says i don't like this or that. i tell her it's what i like not what she likes. You're young and trying to respect her ,but sometimes they need to respect us. The older they get the worse they get. I feel for you. I take care of my grandma (89). I love her, too. just put foot down . Sometimes you have to. BTW i'm 38 and she treated me like a kid , but not anymore.
GOD BLESS
2007-09-24 04:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please note that being an elder does not necessarily mean that one is wise.
I hope you are able to find and concentrate on the good qualities she has, and come to some understanding with her. I, for one, wish my grandmother were still alive. I really miss her.
Edit. I'm not sure why I got a thumbs down for my answer. I guess I need to post my old proviso. See below.
Thumbs up = I'm right.
Thumbs down = I'm right and it has pissed you off.
2007-09-24 04:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by coralsnayk 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋