Mine are due in October 1st and we only have like 25% of them in!!! I feel like I am going to have to call the whole guest list if people don't get them in soon. I ask a few people and they said they were delaying because they didn't know if their boyfriend or spouse could get off of work or if they had to go away... ect... but don't people understand you have to have a head count to tell the cater!?
Anyone else have any issue with this?
Maybe I'll get lucky and a huge batch of them will come on Oct 2 and 3rd! LOL
2007-09-24 03:35:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Our cater has a cut off date- after that date you must pay her and no adding- so it's nothing about $$$, it's about if people are really coming or not!
2007-09-24 03:44:50 · update #1
I AM SO WITH YOU!!! Our RSVP deadline is *tomorrow* - September 25th - and we are still waiting on several RSVPs (I think from 72 people...roughly 30 invites). Worst thing is that a large chunk that are due are from family members...cousins who have gotten married in the past few years and who should know better than to be late on the RSVPs!
After our cut-off date, I'm going to give a list of who has not RSVP'd to the respective mothers (his and mine) and ask if they could assist me with follow-up calls. But truthfully, I should not have to beg to have them send back their RSVPs. What a waste of a stamp!
2007-09-24 06:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by kdkmilwaukee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People just blow this one off--I don't know why. I try not to blow it off when I get a wedding invite with an enclosed response card. I know when they've spent the $$ to get the response card, and they've stamped and addressed the envelope, that they NEED it back.
However, remember people are all living busy lives, and like I tell just about every bride on this board, your wedding is not the top priority for anyone other than yourself. They are not responding simply to give you grief and add to your stress load, they're busy living their own lives. I'll bet you'll find that most people have simply forgot, or maybe even lost the response card. I know if I don't do stuff like that right away, it generally doesn't get done, because it gets buried under a pile of stuff on my desk.
I know you well enough to know you built in time for this exact situation. So use your window, don't panic, and give people until the 4th or 5th. I'd start making phone calls on probably the 7th--I generally find Sunday evening is a good time to catch people at home (unless there's a football game). When you do get them, make them give you a yes or no right there, don't let them go on and on about needing more time, because all you'll do is wind up having to make another phone call. I'm sure your caterer has given you a week window as well--I can't see why a caterer would need a final head count more than a week out. So you've got PLENTY of time. Don't sweat it, ok? ;-)
Also remember, you'll have people show up that didn't RSVP, and you'll have people who've RSVPed they were coming not show up. It usually evens out.
2007-09-24 04:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married on the 6th of October, my due date was the 21 of September. As of that date I had back about 95 %. So I will have to call the people who did not send their RSVP's back to see if they are coming, just so I can let me caterer know. Good luck, I know what you are going through.
2007-09-24 04:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what happens....you get a ton of them all at once.
But once you wait a week or so after the date you have requested the RSVP.... still add some extra for the ones that THINK YOU ALREADY KNOW lol the hall will also ask the same or will charge you per plate...a higher amount then everyone else got.
Try and work extra plates in at the contract price.
Ask the same with all your contracts... gifts... flowers, tables, rooms.... if you need more you do not want to pay more...
Good luck
2007-09-24 03:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by bigthinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 months later, I have yet to get about a 3rd of mine back....lol! I'm so glad I could support the post office by buying like 50 useless stamps! I did get a bunch within a week after my cut off date, and a lot of people didn't take them seriously, I had several who said they would be their and didn't show and several who said the wouldn't and did and then the huge batch of inconsiderate people who just came anyway! Best bet is to start calling about October 3rd since you HAVE to have an exact number. Good luck with it, maybe your guests will be more considerate than a lot of mine! :)
2007-09-24 03:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We had a similar issue. Only about 75% of those who came actually sent in their RSVP. Some people did call to let us know they were going to be there, but several didn't do either. We also had some that were not invited show up (friends of the family that my father invited last minute).
We invited 200 people, and planned food for 150. It worked out really well because that is about the number that showed up.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-09-24 03:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had family who assumed that I knew they were coming. I also had the situation where people RSVP'd that they would bring a date and then not bring anyone. So it may work itself out with the people not showing up and the ones who just show up.
If you are doing your reception buffet style then don't worry about it too much. When catering buffet style there are always extras. It is the sit downs where you are being served that can be a problem.
I agree with the person who said ask your mom and the Groom's mom. This was especially helpful for me. They were able to call around and find out what was what and get back to me quickly.
2007-09-24 04:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by bronzeartist00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, our RSVP date is this Saturday 9/29. I am still missing 1/3 of the RSVPs. The Jack and Jill is also 9/29, and only about 20% have called for that. It's frustrating, I know.
2007-09-24 03:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is my situation so far too...mine are due on Oct. 8, and I have about 1/3 of them. Luckily, as I look at my list of invited people, I know that about 95% of the peeps that haven't responded yet ARE coming. Luckily I have about 2 more weeks, but it is frustrating. You'd think they'd get it and just send it in!
2007-09-24 04:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had ours due in on September 15, and I've not heard from probably 1/3 of the list as of yet. Our situation is a little different, and we can accomodate any stragglers up to the last minute, and since it's a destination wedding, it's not like anyone would come on a whim...
2007-09-24 03:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋