I'm a very attractive woman--thin, in shape, long blonde hair, a pretty face. But I feel like my boyfriend isn't attracted to me. He rarely wants to have sex with me, and he looks at porn and checks out other women. Why is he with me if he doesn't find me attractive?
2007-09-24 02:42:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should add a couple details: We've been dating for two years, we live together, and we're engaged to be married in April. It's not a hook-up situation.
2007-09-24 04:01:01 · update #1
If you had a waist to hip ratio of 0.7 or less, he would find you attractive. You are just a convienent little tramp and good enough for sex when he is in need. He will dump you when he finds someone better.
2007-09-24 02:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends,I use to feel that way about my boyfriend.I got to know him and realized that he was the kind of guy I should've been looking for.Ask him why he feels the need to watch porn.Looking at other people is normal,as long as he's not acting on it.Sex has it's ups and downs in any healthy relationship.You should talk with him,and let him know the behavior and porn bother you.If it still keeps up,maybe he's not the guy for you.
2007-09-24 02:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Babylove 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad situation and he isn't being honest with you. I once went out with someone I wasn't attracted to because he seemed keen on me and I wondered if I would find him attractive in a dating situation, but my feelings changed to dislike and I told him to push off. Your boyfriend sounds as if he's on the look-out for someone else, so why not beat him to the finishing line? You can get someone who likes you and is genuinely interested in you.
2007-09-24 02:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he does love you but he just doesn't want to have sex as much as you do. Maybe you wanting to have sex all the time makes him feel like he has to, even though he wants to. Every man looks all the time but maybe he doesn't want to have sex all the time. Or maybe you just don't do the things he likes in bed,not that you are bad but not the things he likes, even though he claims he does.
2007-09-24 02:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is attracted to you and is just having problems with himself; however, if he isn't he may just be keeping you as a sort of "trophy" or else he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Also, its normal for men to look at other women. Its just the way they're wired. If it really bugs you, talk to him about it. Ask how he'd feel if you oggled other men.
2007-09-24 02:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might still love you but taking you for granted.
May be he just bored alittle bored with you! Give yourself a different look like: Go shopping for new longjerrys, underwear or other hot stuff.
Make sure you give him pleasure during sex
2007-09-24 02:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by mr. wisdom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arm candy. He is attracted to the IDEA of you. Having you on his arm makes him feel good about himself and what he can achieve.
If he's busy checking out other women, then do yourself a favor and get rid of him. Your man should be into YOU - all of you, including your mind.
2007-09-24 02:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Convenience?
Some men just like to keep a woman around for when it's convenient. They aren't into "relationships" but like the convenience of having someone on call when they need them.
If your bf doesn't want sex and the relationship isn't what you are looking for, then move on!
2007-09-24 02:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
....I'm not really certain as to what his direct mental or physical difficulties might be with you darling......but if you're everything you say you are and then some seriously?....then maybe a considerable direct conversation with him would be in tight order possibly.....wouldn't you agree with me really hun? I'm believing you are absolutely quite visually and physically exceptional darling....so what's wrong with his eyesight and mentality naturally? Ask him babe....cause he's the only one that knows the answer to your personal query here otherwise......agreed? Let me know what his response ends up looking like babe...OK?...BTW?....send me a couple of fabulous pictures of yourself sweetie...cause I'll give you my own honest opinion if you're looking for feedback otherwise.....COOL?
2007-09-24 02:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you are too available. Stop hanging around him so much... let him wonder what you are up to while he's home checking out girls on the net.
2007-09-24 02:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋