Will things ever get better?

Question

I don't know when things will ever get better.

My 15 year old daughter was living with her father in another state until now. She lives with me now and is not happy with her school at all.

We were living with my parents and now moved into an apartment and she says that it feels like a hotel.

My expenses have gone up so that I will be saving less money for retirement and her college education.

I feel very unsettled and worried for my child. She misses her Dad, Grandmother and friends. She really only has me and my parents here in the state where I live.

Its too much change for her also with the new school, living arrangements and state.
I feel like I have to struggle for everything and I don't know when there will be an improvement in my life situation.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

well you both need to sit down and talk and change can sometimes be good .. not at first but when you get used to it.
I know how she feels with school because im her age and i want to move .. all my mum did was ring the school up and said im unhappy with it so she has a meeting .. maybe you could try and say shes going through a hard time or something.
And does she keep in contact with other family members who dont live in the same state ..if yes well does she enough? since she is missing them?

well good luck hope everything turns out for the best :)

x

Answer 2

Some people don't even save for retirement and their children's education. Consider yourself lucky that you are even able to do that.

Why don't you sit down and write down everything you have to be thankful for and ask your daughter to do the same. You need to start counting your blessings instead of focusing on all that you "don't" have.

1. She has a father
2. She has grandparents
3. She has a place to live
4. She has a mother that is doing everything in her power to make her happier
5. She has a savings created for her college expenses.
6. Her health

does she have a stereo? a cell phone? designer clothes? Make her list all of these things each time she complains. Do not allow her to feel sorry for herself.

And I suggest you do the same thing.

Answer 3

it's going to take awhile for her to adjust to her new surroundings. You have to give her a little time to understand, a little time to adjust and a little time to cope. She is young and she won't understand right away- she's just going to react in maybe a way that gets you upset. She'll come around eventually. You both will learn to deal with the situation and make the best of it of what you have- she will learn to appreciate you more in the long end. I know it's hard but hang in there- everything will turn out to be ok- trust me. Have a little faith and hope. You can do this!

Answer 4

Why isn't your ex helping you out with child support? He should also be saving for her college education, not just you. Also, why not try moving back with your parents until you are back on your feet. It's not good for your daughter to be so overwhelmed at such a young age. I don't know why she came to live with you, but maybe it wasn't the greatest idea if your life isn't where you want it to be.