my grandma passed last month.so my cousin and i decided that we would keep my grandma's house and split the bills.when it was time to pay the bills my cousin said she didn't have enough money...so i'm in the process of moving out on my own...and she has no where to go.....but,she is the reason we have to move....she said she dosent have money to pay bills but she goes shopping for clothes...what should i do?should i help her...or let her find out the hard way about living?
2007-09-24 02:22:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lola, let her go. Sell the house and move on with your life. It's funny but family always thinks that you're suppose to carry them especially when you're taking care of business and being responsible. Tell her that it's not your fault that she is irresponsible with her money. Give her 30-60 days to get her things out and move on. You have to do this or you'll be trying to repair your credit because of her mistakes.
2007-09-24 02:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go because it seems to me that your cousin isn't responsible enough and she needs to grow up! Your cousin has her priorities mixed up because instead of helping you pay the bills and taking care of your grandma's house, she's spending her money on clothes! You need to talk to your cousin and tell her how you feel. Be honest with her and tell it like it is, because your cousin needs some "tough love." If she isn't willing to help you, keep her priorities straight, and being responsible, then move out! Good luck!
2007-09-24 04:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go - she sounds like she really needs to grow up. When you have responsibilities, you have to learn that clothes, make-up, even perfume, have to be moved to the bottom of the list. While clothes are okay if you need to buy them for work, it is not okay if it is a habit of changing with the styles. If she says she doesn't have money for bills, ask her where her money goes then. Might sound nosey but she brought it on herself.
2007-09-24 02:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Love being a Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should help her because that is your GRANDMA'S house, and you have a "duty" to take care of it. you must forgive her for this time but you must warn her for the another time.
2007-09-24 04:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can suggest a place to go to set up a budget for her and let her go
2007-09-24 02:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by pookerangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love baby!
2007-09-24 02:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not help your cousin. she's looking for a free ride....
take care of YOU... you aren't responsible for anyone else.
hugs
2007-09-24 02:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T HELP HER SHE NEEDS TO HELP HER SELF. IF YOU DO YOU'LL BE SORRY.
2007-09-24 03:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Chocolate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋