A female coworker asked me to go to dinner with her and a group of friends from work, I told her that I might be able to go but wasn't sure because I had other plans. When I told her I couldn't go, her facial expressions indicated that she was very disappointed that I wasn't able to go. Then ignored me for the rest of the day. How should i take this, I told her that I already had plans and there was only a chance that I could go. Should I apologize. I am a dude by the way
2007-09-24 01:01:18 · 11 answers · asked by mama a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No you didn't do anything wrong as you had allready said that you had got plans already. She is being a bit childish by ignoring you but you should rise above this and be your normal self around her. It's not as if you had said yes for definate and then never turned up as that is rude.
2007-09-24 01:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by anniebell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, why didn't you say no in the first place? Why did you say you "might" go when you already knew you had other plans? Don't be so wishy washy and afraid to give a straight answer. My fiancee does that ALL the time - makes me CRAZY! I bet you told her you couldn't go the DAY of the dinner. When you say "might" or "maybe" - to YOU that may be a polite decline, but from another perspective that could be a "yes". Just be more direct in your responses thats all.
2007-09-24 08:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pat B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had accepted a prior invitation, that's what you should have told her. Suggesting that you would try to ditch the other obligation in favor of her invitation was not the right thing to do. I don't think you owe her an apology, but it's clear that she's hoping to see you outside the office. If you're interested, ask her out to dinner.
2007-09-24 08:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok mama dude. LOL :D Just kidding you.
I dont see that you did anything wrong. I dont think that she believes you that you had other plans. But what can you do? She will either get over it or she wont.
Tell her that you are really sorry that you could not go because of plans that were previously made and you would like to go the next time if you knew ahead of time so that you dont make any plans that day.
2007-09-24 08:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for what? She asked, you responded that you had to confirm previous plans, you did so her last minute request wasn't an option. You did nothing to apologize for. She, however, is exhibiting extremely poor behavior. She must have an interest in you but if this is her reaction to something so benign, I would want to steer clear of her.
2007-09-24 08:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to apologize for already having plans. Maybe suggest another day to go to dinner?
2007-09-24 08:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't do anything wrong at all. She thought you would be able to come. She probably thought you had much time on you hands, which was wrong of her.
Talk to her and maybe YOU should be the one asking her out next time. If she doesn't co-operate, move on, and let her do the running if she changes her mind.
2007-09-24 08:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sanskia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't, and you co-worker DID misbehave, indeed. For, her ensuing reaction and behavior are sheer display of comptent toward other's will and freedom. It's a problem of etiquette, yes. Etiquette strongly recommends not to express any discontent or grudge when facing other's refusal to invitation.
SHE must apologize for her childish and selfish behavior and lack of resistance to frustration. Hell! Not you.
2007-09-24 08:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Space Bluesman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um she sounds like a brat esp if she then ignored you for declining her invite. she might like u if she got all upset and disappointed. prolly ignored you so u would come up to her with some big apology. she sounds like such a baby.
2007-09-24 09:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked this question.... Why are you asking it again? Do you have an obsession with approval?
2007-09-24 08:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋