HELP!!! ican't get my son out off nappies!!?

Question

My son will be 3 in January and starting pre-school. But the school won't take children who are not fully toilet trained and he REFUSES to even try. He doesn't want to know about it, he won't even let me put underwear on him.
WHAT DO I DO? I ONLY HAVE 4 MONTHS!!!

Answer 1

Take the nappies off, buy towelling training pants/undies and tell him that the shop ran out of nappies and you can't buy anymore so he has to go in the toilet. Don't put undies on at all if you have to. If you're out and about, bring towels, wipes, plastic bags and a few spare pants. If you put nappies on/off/on/off it'll confuse him.
Let him pee out in the backyard (teaching them to aim on a rock works well) if you want. At night put a pull-up on him (do it slyly at bedtime while your talking to him about something fun so he doesn't really notice.)
My son procrastinated for ages until I did this. I always praised even the accidents and continouly said 'zaccy, we go wee wee in the...... toilet', in a sing-song voice. soon they finish the sentence for you and get excited. reward every effort with a treat.
Maybe speak to the pre-school and bring him in for a little play and make a big point of saying all the big kids go wee-wee in the toilet. "do you want to go to school? you gotta go wee-wee in the toilet first" be persistent and consistent and eventually he will follow. Bring him with you to pick out cool undies he likes even if they cost a bit more.

Try and figure out if there is a fear of the toilet for him (my son would not do poo on the toilet for fear of falling in until I got him a padded 'cushie-tooshie' to sit on) You can also buy a product called 'wee-man' which is a sort of bowl/urinal looking thing that hangs over the toilet bowl so he pees in that and doesn't have to stand of a stool or anything.

Another thing I tried, let him run around butt naked and set the microwave/oven timer for every 30mins. Everytime it beeps, take him to the toilet, praise him heaps, reward him for just sitting/standing there, and then reset for another 30mins.
After 2 or 3 times he will get the jist of the beeping and toilet and hopefully he will pee. Try giving him a drink 10mins before the timer is due to go off so he's got something to pee out.
My son took 2mths of continual trying before we had success so it take persistance and consistency.

Best of luck and I hope you find a way to get him to let go of the nappy. My nephew is 3 in feb and still not toilet trained either so don't worry, its normal.

Answer 2

Don't put underwear on him then - the very first stage of potty training is taking the nappy off and encouraging him to pee in the potty, no underwear involved. He may be worried about messing his underwear.

If he doesn't wee when you take the nappy off for a couple of hours, then he's ready. is he excited about going to pre-school? If so, you could simply tell him what the requirement is - not in a way that makes it sound impossible, but just explain that this is something which children at preschool do. Point out all the other (boring) things that he's grown out of - eating baby rice, milk in bottles, his cot, not being allowed toy cars, having to be carried everywhere instead of running around and playing...

Do something. Even if it's just ten minutes running around bare after his bath before the nappy goes back on, and prime at least one other adult so you can tell them (when he's there) about his "achievement" and have them also praise him and encourage him towards the next step. And have a reward system ready :) Once he realises that co-operating gets him praise and attention you won't need four months, more like two weeks :)

Answer 3

The only sure way they learn is positive re-enforcement. No diapers period. If your at home with your child or you have a reliable daycare provider, this method will work. No nappies, just underwear, no pants. Let him roam around without pants at first to get used to the feel of the underwear. When he urinates he will feel it and know he can't go in his underwear like he did in his nappy. Pull ups at nap and bed time only. Don't bother with standing or aiming, your goal is to get him to go his potty, water and the big potty will scare him and that will be another milestone later. Books, lots of "potty books" near the potty, lots of drink then have him sit and read a book. You have to sit there too. We put the potty across from the big potty and spent alot of time in the bathroom! My friend used something called "potty pops" reward system. Both of you decorate a peice of paper put it around a coffee can or jar and put lollipops in it. When the child goes to the bathroom its time for a potty pop. This is a very hard stage, be patient. You will be amazed at how quickly it happens when there is no choice!
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Try making a game of going to the potty.. There are targets that can be purchased to put inside of the toilet.. try teaching him to stand and hit the target in the toilet or put a small square of toilet paper and draw a circle on it and tell him to hit the circle... Once he sees he can have fun at it then he may start..

You may also want to start a reward system.. set up a paper that you can put star, stickers or somethign on it for everytime he goes potty.. and a big reward such as a small piece of candy or going to his favorite park to play, watching his favorite show... at the end of the day or week if he stays dry all day or all week.. depends on the child. Good luck..

also books such as

Tinkle, Tinkle, Little Tot: Songs and Rhymes for Toilet Training (Hardcover)
by Bruce Lansky (Author), Catherine Blake (Author)

Once Upon a Potty -- Boy
by Alona Frankel (Illustrator)