Why do we usually love the one who hurt us and hurt the one who love us?

Question

zat's a tricky question!

Answer 1

Nope, not for me, muahahhaha, but then again its my ideas on the subject, but I digress. It comes down to a very simple problem were all dealing with, a sort of hand me down problem really but the fact remains we are right now almost completely purposeless. Now don't get me wrong we have purposes they boarder around the usual sex, money, social position, and/or love. Their all pretty shallow really but they tend to make it so we loss the deeper purposes in our lives which is to learn, grow and eventually understand, we have a purpose (and I don't mean to be religious its just the truth) to be shepards in other words, the bibles weren't lieing, they just didn't know how to tell us. That aside (and the answer to your question) the most important thing is the fact that a missing purpose leaves us open for someone to force something else there, for someone to hurt us by GIVING us a purpose, like love them. But people who truly love us don't force on us, treat everything in a perfect light (this is DEFINTLY a force that pushes people away, its not honest) and acting like only love is enough and generally try to shield us. This is all good but doesn't really sheild us from our lack of purpose like when someone just gives it to us and only hurts our understanding

Example
Bad boy
Like girl I love you so much you belong with me, thats just all there is to it, now stop thinking about it

Good boy
Hey I really love you, do you think you can be with me? I mean you know....

Just an example, but the fact remains its all because were looking for a purpose thats been tooken from us (by factors that are really opionin) and were looking for a replacment. But maybe by the example you can get a hint out of what I mean and why it SEEMS ladies like bad boys, fact is guys do to, pretty much for the same reason.......