I have been 100% sure a 10 year old girl was mine. I never saw her. In two days I will know and i am not seeing it. The mom has her doubts. I want her to be mine. If she isnt that means I've ruined 10 years of my life for nothing. I dont know how I'm going to react if she isnt mine. *09 people say they think she is. They cant all be wrong. What do i do?
2007-09-23 19:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
DNA shouldn't matter. If she's been raised as your kid, that's what she is. Mind over genetic coding, my friend.
2007-09-23 19:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say you just have to wait and see. Even if she isn't your daughter that doesn't mean that your cant still have a relationship with her.
How did you ruin 10yrs of your life if you have never seen her?
A child is a blessing, there is no way she could have ruined your life, because she never asked to be here.
If she is your daughter I hope you step up to the plate and form some kind of bond and relationship with this child. And no just paying your child support doesn't count.
2007-09-23 19:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's NOT , let those 10 years of mental anguish and guilt GO. Break all ties. Throw every thing away. Never speak of it again. As far as 'ruining " ten years of yer life fer nothing goes, YOU GOTTA THINK ABOUT THIS, if SHE IS, you will have ruined 10 years of her life for nothing. I figure Your years will be happily sacrificed to know that you're not responsible for ruining her precious years. so if she's not, sit back and have a DRINK, a SMOKE, and a Tear.
2007-09-24 17:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by slakjaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is nothing to do untill the test comes.I CANT SAY I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BUT I DO FEEL REMORSE.this is going to be a hard time for you because there is a 50 percent chance or more if she cheated on you with more guys than that ,that it may not be yours.BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO TAKE IT AS A MAN.there will be nothing you can do id the kid is not yours.
YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO GET TEN YEARS BACK.
but i hope you realize that the kid had nothing to do with this and know that the kid probly sees you as his/hers only father.
BUT TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH THIS HAPPENS ALOT WITH WOMAN THAT LIE THERE IS NOT MUCH YOU CAN DO.
hope that helped a lilltle man.
2007-09-23 19:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by kingml213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child doesn't have to be biologically yours to be yours. So what if it wasn't your sperm. Do you love this child? Are you her parent? Why should that change? Yes, your pride or feelings may be hurt. You may even be confused, but this is not just about you. Step up! Be a father to this little girl! Put her first and think of all the pain you'd be causing her, all the promises you'd be breaking if you just dumped her.
This is not about how you "feel". This is about commitment and sticking it out and being faithful. It's about being a parent!
2007-09-24 04:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by ElioraImmanuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never saw her, how will you have ruined 10 years of your life? If you have been helping supporting her, that makes you more of a man if she is not yours than most fathers.
2007-09-23 19:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to know what to do yourself. You're all grown up, take charge! I'm sure not all of us who've replied to this have taken a DNA test before.
2007-09-23 19:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes yours great. if you have been with her 10 years and shes not yours well can yu just leave her? not i would think shes yours in mind so therefore stay.there is more to life then blood.
2007-09-26 14:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why have you never seen her?. I hope if she turns out to be yours you can get to know her.
2007-09-23 19:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya just gotta wait dontcha?? good luck tho
2007-09-23 19:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋