How will I avoid to be acused of getting sides. How will I resolve the conflict and bring back the good relationship we had. How will I going to explain to them that I am sincere and hopeful to restore the disturbed relationship and be united again. In my previous job, I was not able to handle things, I chose to resign and resent all the bad things happened between us. I do not want that to happen again.. Pls.. help..
2007-09-23 19:12:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best way to stay out of trouble is to keep you eyes and ears open and your mouth shut. I do not even involve my coworkers in my social life at all.
2007-09-23 19:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the conflict has nothing to do with you, you need to keep it that way. If it has something to do with you, rather than avoid it, you need to confront it and talk to the people involved. Otherwise, this problem will follow you--because the real problem is that you don't know how to deal with conflict.
If it has nothing to do with you, you can politely tell anyone who tries to talk to you about it (even if they are not asking for advice) that you don't want to hear about it or get involved. If they are good friends, they will respect that. If they don't respect that, you shouldn't feel too bad about them not being friends with you anymore because they weren't being a good friend.
2007-09-24 02:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conflicts are a part of human nature--if you are not involved STAY OUT OF IT--don't discuss it and let them work it out. However if you are involved, conflict resolution is an adult mature way to settle things, get past them and move on--you can't run away from conflict if you are involved. If not--mind your own business.
2007-09-24 02:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be accused of taking sides -- then don't take sides. Don't even appear to take sides. If one of them asks for your advice, tell them that you do not want to get caught in the middle of things and that you do not have an opinion as to what they should do.
If, on the other hand, you really do want to do something to smooth things over, tell BOTH of them and then wait for them to show that they are willing to listen to what you have to say. If they value your friendship, they will at least listen.
Just remember, though, that nobody can be forced to do something they really do not want to do. They can tricked, intimidated or persuaded into doing it, but they cannot be forced. If your co-workers do not want to be friendly towards each other, just tell each of them to please not drag you into the argument and to not require you to choose them.
2007-09-24 02:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by archerdude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what kind of situation it was and it was with a girl or a boy coz u have different way to talk to girl and boy
2007-09-24 02:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by S S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a sick leave and dont show up for a length of time
things will cool down
2007-09-24 02:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by choot_kapani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋