im 7months pregnant. so far ive been through all the pregnant experience by my self, morning sick, food craving (he dont care when i suddenly want to eat a crab meat!), even buy a baby bed! my husband never company me to do the monthly check up in the hospital, he did once and he played "solitaire"in his cellphone while im talking with my doctor! he dont pay attention when im looking to the ultrasound monitor, when people ask him how many months is my pregnancy, he said 3 months! he think that i was doing stupid thing by talking with my tummy, when my baby kick me and i put his hand on to my tummy, he said stop it, im tired! many other things that iritating me, his and my family is far far away, i am perfectly lonely. we are just marriend 2 years, he is extreme workaholic, he gave me alot of money to spend, provide me a car+driver and 2 maids to spoil me, he loves me, and never forget my birthday, but this baby drive him crazy, isn'it... what should i do? do you have a same experience?
2007-09-23 17:31:46 · 8 answers · asked by NaNa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
All people has a mind and soul. the use of this both are depend on how we want them to effect our life. trust me, ur body working depend on how your soul drive them, your soul working depend on how your mind drive your soul, you have choice, you want your mind drive your soul or your soul drive you mind. if you let your soul drive ur mind youll feel always iritating with all your husband done to you (in purpose or not) but if you let your clear mind drive your soul then it will be easier for you to let your both life flow, i think maybe because he does not feel he is DADDY yet, later on, he will fully realize. same like my hubs, he wont touch a wrinkles creature, he said his son was just like an alien, but when the baby cry and stop cry when he saw his dad face, my hubs love him much more than me, take it easy!
2007-09-24 16:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by MaDaM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess just cope with what's going on the best you can. If you can enjoy this pregnancy yourself and use the money and freedom he gives you to live it up, then try to be satisfied with that. I know you'd like the company of your husband but if you have friends or family to talk with or hang out with you can get some satisfaction out of enjoying the pregnancy with them. You could go to birthing classes, prenatal yoga, pregnant or new mother groups and meet people there. Sounds like you have it made (showered/spoiled with money) and sometimes we yearn for more but if you can get some basic conversation out of him from time to time or even see a marriage therapist that'd be great, but enjoy all the money and maids in the meantime!
2007-09-23 18:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How your husband is treating you is not right. Its emotionally abusive to you for him to be basically ignoring your pregnancy. I would suggest talking to a marriage counselor. Chances are, if your husband is treating you this way, he will also treat your child this way. If you wont try to get counseling for your sake, do it for the baby. Do not let him make threats about taking away the luxuries you have, if he does, keep on going and get help for the sake of your baby. Its been proven that children who grow up in poor households with loving parents grow up to be better people than children who grow up in rich households with parents who neglect or abuse them.
2007-09-23 17:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Somaesthesia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my brother and his girlfriend just had their 2nd child and he was always there to comfort her
your husband should understand that in 2 months you are going to be feeling pain like non other he is going to be regretting of what he did probably in 2 months he would most likely be so happy that he is going to have a baby girl or boy and he is going to be forgetting why he did all that stuff in the first place
you can be patient or you can tell him off
2007-09-23 17:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by sol-republic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just too involved in his work. It also sounds like he has a high power/high stress job. It is something that you need to sit down and talk to him about. Communication is more important than money in a marriage. Without communication there really is no marriage.
2007-09-23 17:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent went though that but if my husband acted like that i would talk 2 him and if he continued 2 act like that i would have 2 leave him cuz my baby would be more important 2 me than him
2007-09-23 17:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by raven m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well boo look i went through a similar experience with my ex wife and i regret it, look don't let it get to u, he'll come around one day if not then it 's his lost, don't let him or his family stress u, just be yourself and things will change
2007-09-23 17:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by ish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get used 2 it!
2007-09-23 17:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋