We as humans define our world by our beliefs and conceptions. If we believe the world if flat and the sun revolves around us, then it does, it will not matter what the truth is to us it will be as we believe. So if this is the case why then have we convinced ourselves that a fairy tale type (not mirror but type) love is impossible?
The fairy tales written down, not our modern sanitised children’s versions but originals, were based on the oral tradition of the previous generations, in effect on the legends of the generations that came before. All legends contain a grain of truth, at least one single fact that the legend is based on with the rest being an attempt to explain this fact. All creation myths are built on this, the fact - something exists, the legend - trying the explain why. All legends have some form of truth to them, a basic story line fleshed out with extraordinary things to make sure it is remembered. A fairy tale is based on a legend, in effect it is a legend.
So why then is it that we (or at least most) believe, if all legends have some truth and most fairy tales are legends, that it is impossible to have a fairy tale type love in reality? What is it about ourselves, as adults in this world, that makes us so cynical and jaded that we believe that it is impossible?
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Is there anyway to reverse this cynicism and ‘jading’?
Please explain your answers.
Thanks.
2007-09-23 14:09:40 · 8 answers · asked by Arthur N 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I had a fairy tale love. We met, we fell instantly in love. We spent every moment we could together and finally had the perfect wedding. I had the perfect dress, the honeymoon was the most romantic 2 weeks of my life. We found a house had a baby and for the most part, the fairy tale continues.
Don't get me wrong, we have had our ups and downs. We have had our arguments and tears. But even the fairy tales have bad times, the poisoned apple, the wicked step mother etc.
I think the misnomer is "And they lived happily ever after." The story up to that point is full of ups and downs. Each and every one of them, but most people remember the last line. And as I have already explained, there is NO happily EVER. There was adversity leading up to that point, and there will be adversity after.
In that sense, I would not want a "fairy tale" love. You have to experience the downs to appreciate the ups. Life all on ups would eventually get boring (in my opinion).
2007-09-23 14:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Like you said, there is a grain of truth in each fairy tale ... the aching we have to join with our "other half", and also to connect the male and female sides of ourselves, for heart and mind to come together as one.
You are correct that fairy tales have been sanitised, and that they were previously more earthy and MUCH less romantic. In the original of "Sleeping Beauty", the prince raped her in her sleep to wake her up ... about as romantic as a dirty joke!
I think the problem you address about cynicism is that fairy tales tend to end with the wedding ... they are often courtship tales. We all know that there is a lifetime together to work on your relationship, and at that point, fairy tales are of very little help, except in helping us remember the spark of romantic love necessary to keep a relationship alive.
2007-09-23 22:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thru fairy tales, children were made to believe that it will never happen in real life...but you look around, fairy tales do come true & it happened to some, only couples can never be living in bed of roses, there are sad times, that is when you can say, a fairy tale tyhrough and through.
2007-09-24 10:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by butirog_2007 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever noticed that with fair tales you never know what happened "after they live happily ever after?'
We do not know the answer to what lies beyond the zenith of that moment in the fairytale when it ends......what is the happy ever after....the REST OF THE STORY....just begins. the give the take, the struggles, quests, the battles, the loving ....it all is just the beginning.....I think we all at one time or another lived the fairy tale.............we just realize that after the greatest moments come a determined commitment to make it last.........that is work.
2007-09-23 22:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is nothing more than a positive feeling of affection for another. The socially perpetuated fairy tale is dependence not love.
The fairy tale is perpetuated on children desperate for love, attention and affection. The fair tale satisfies the fears of a child -- the fear of being unloved, the fear of being alone, the fear of being unwanted, and the fear of abandonment.
If you want to leave me, the door is over there. As a courtesy though, please let me know.
2007-09-23 23:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Reality can never truly reach the colossal enormity of the illusion we create.
2007-09-23 22:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by James 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i so wish i could answer this question, i do pretty much agree with everything u have said. ill keep coming back to this question, just to see what answers u get, even though, i dont have high hopes. best of luck.
2007-09-23 21:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by hippie chick 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yopu got it spot on. thank you.
2007-09-24 05:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by tony 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋