Would you ever...?

Question

raise a child in a country other than ur home country? not including another 3araby country...would u ever raise ur child in a country such as the UK or the US? do you feel that raising a child in a country other than their native country cruel? i think so, how about you?

i don't mean it in a prejudiced way...i mean that they don't learn the language anymore or learn less about their culture...

Answer 1

cruel? that's absolutely a very incorrect word to describe parents raising their kids abroad. I see nothing wrong with it as long as the parents make sure they teach their children the true meaning of their religion and teach them the right principals and not just let them mix and act like others from different countries. I was born in USA and raised in both Egypt and USA. I see nothing wrong with it and I plan to take my children to USA if I ever need to for many reasons such as a better financial standards, better education, etc... I really do not see ur point. There are countless Egyptians and Muslims in general living and raising their kids abroad. I personally know many families who have lived in US all their lives and their are very religious and their children were brought up to be very decent Muslims and some are even a lot better than those living in Egypt or other Arab countries. Some memorize the whole Quraan, learn Arabic. I even know some Muslim girls who were born and raised in USA yet they are very conservative and many of them wear niqab or jilbab. so compare them to others here.....
Being raised in a non Muslim country can be hard but only if the parents themselves are not religious or conservative. Their children will grow up to be westernizedm but then that's the parents' fault.

Answer 2

This is what I am doing now and I am not only raising a child but two children! Teaching them our native language is the easiest part, it's raising them the way I was raised is the part I find very challenging. My kids spend at least six hours in school and three hours in extra-curricular activities everyday, and I can only control what they hear and see inside our home. I've heard so many negative stories how one's son or daughter became such a bad person simply because they're so "Westernized". However, I believe it's the way we, as parents, bring them up no matter where they are.

In my opinion, the only time it's cruel for a child being raised in another country is when the parent/s deny that child to know his/her own roots.

Answer 3

The language point can be covered now and to know about the country or the history also possible. I agree with you for the other sides.

It's not an easy decision specially when we make such choices it's one way or another out of our hands, but if I have a choice I would never do it unless the child is older than a teenager. If she is a girl I would never do it. We should also consider which country we speak about. Not all regions or countries are the same.

We can see some Egyptians who spent most of their life abroad and how much they can be lost and take that in consideration. You can find some of them can't be part of the other community and can't be Egyptians, they suffer always this internal conflict even when they come back and try to stay.

You can find few examples here in Y/A and they may dislike this answer cuz it touches their wound.

Answer 4

i dont know if you would call it cruel but i think there are certain things you have to face up to if you intend doing this.
I teach and i have at the moment a child in my class who has spent just over a year in a country on the continent. the child has suffered because of this even though they are only 7 years old. the child has retreated inside themselves and is obviously finding things confusing and difficult. they spent just over a year in country where the language was different and children didn't attend school until a later age. As a result the child in comparison with others of his age group is fairing very badly. had this child remained in the other country then i think their first language would have become the language of the new country.
England as i am sure you know has many different nationalities and my experience is that children brought up here usually take on the values and standards of this country to a certain extent.
if they are young when they first arrive. It is difficult for them to return to their native country and yet they dont totally belong to the new country. it is a recognized fact that first generation immigrants often find it hard to know where their roots lie. parents want the children to retain the culture and customs of the parent country, while the children are introduced to new cultures and customs. they therefore find themselves torn between the two. It is this feeling of not belonging that often pushes the tennagers to become involved in gang culture, this gives the young adult a sense of belonging.
in my opinion and my experience those that fair best are those that embrace their new home and new culture, while retaining parts of their root culture which do not conflict with the new country. as a teacher of many years experience i have seen many examples of this and watched many kids grow up in these circumstances.

Answer 5

people are people everywhere, and if you do not want them to have a prejudiced attitude of hate and dislike for other people, then raising them in another country has its benefits. Why do you think so many people from all countries all over the world live in other countries, and why do you think so many people come to US or Canada or UK to live and teach their children English? Because the international community keeps expanding and by the time they are adults, they will have the advantage.

Answer 6

Allah(Swt) made us from different tribes so that we might come to know each other...does this u mean its better or worse to raise a child in another country? Not in my opinion, but as long as we raise the child to be a good muslim, thats what counts, insha'Allah. I am more free to be a muslim in some ways here in the U.S. than I am in Egypt. I can have a beard without predjudice, I can be at the masjid when I wish, I dont have to pay bribes etc. But its harder to eat halal, find a place to pray at times etc....so as long as the child is raised "islamically" where is a decision that the parents have to make carefully, but Almost anywhere it can be done. Allah knows best...Islam IS the answer

Answer 7

raising child in another country will not make problem for the child it will make problem to the parents,because the child will grow up as a citizen from this country and didn't know things about his country,after while he will refuse to be his origin nationality and will like the new country.
i know some families go back to their country for these reasons

Answer 8

No i dont think its cruel to raise a child other than my home country,i think its all got to to how u raise the child,not where they live!

Answer 9

I think it is a great way to expose them to another culture and teach them that there are other ways of living. How educational!

For some countries, there might be health risks you would need to take into account.

Answer 10

i would raise my kids in any country i am in
language is not the most imortant thing for me
language is a means to communicate
be it arabic or hindi or english
it dont matter at all.
i am not stuck in one culture
i want my kids to be multi cultural
i want my kids to learn about different things food religions way of life
there are always things u can learn form other nations,
being in one culture and one language make you boring and
dull with zero vista in life.
to broaden your mind u need to divulge in many paths.