home early evening. With football season in he waits until the Dallas Game is over because he doesn't want to miss his game. He lives over an hour away and depending on the game can get home late. My girlfriend and I don't live together and her and her husband divorce isn't final yet. If he is going to be later than 830 Pacific time then she goes to sleep and last week left the door unlocked for him to carry the son in. This week she is leaving the key under the door. He will let her know that he left the boy in his room then leave. I don't like the idea of her ex coming into the house when I am not there and when she is sleeping. I just don't think it is appropriate but am I being unfair???
2007-09-23 13:28:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're getting a little into the "none of your business" territory. Their divorce isn't final (have they even filed for divorce?). She leaves a key out for him; she is obviously comfortable with him bringing the child in while she sleeps. What you think is not appropriate is not the issue. At this point, you have no say in the matter.
2007-09-23 13:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this was your house and she moved in you make the rules. Also consider the fact does she help with the bills? Leaving a key or leaving the door unlocked is unsafe. He should bring the child home before the game. Or she needs to get her *** up and let him in. He can call and wake her up when he gets there.Sounds like she is being lazy.
2007-09-23 20:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait , what?
She goes to sleep if the child isnt home by the time she wants to go to bed and she allows her ex inside the house while she sleeps ? what kind of garbage act as a mother is that?
If her ex has her child then she stays AWAKE until that child is home safe and damn sound in his own bed , my god , how old is your girl friend? this sounds to ridiculous to be true .
Tell her to either get a court order stating the child is to be home by 6pm with or without a football game being on and that way he has some stability in his life this crap has to stop now , you dont allow a football game to come in between a child and a stable life style.Or she has to stay up until the child is home safe and sound .
No way I would ever go to sleep waiting for my daughter to return from her father's house like that and over my dead body would he be in my house , how old is this child ? , my child is home by 5 pm so I can feed her get her bathed and ready for school the next day, your g/f need's to rethink her mothering skill's.
2007-09-23 20:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
you are not unfair anything could happen not even pertaining to him her. someone could see her leaving the key and just let there selves in and hurt her, or even worst she could be killed by someone who saw her do that, not to mention getting raped.
why cant the dad find out what time the Dallas game is and either get the boy home before the game or let the boy stay at his house and take him to school the next day? why does she have to inconvenience herself for him?
2007-09-23 20:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think leaving the door unlocked or leaving the key under the door is safe....I think you should be more concerned about someone unknown coming into the house..more so than her soon to be ex.
2007-09-23 20:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i drop off and pick my little girl up at her dads house on the weekends. i would never go in his house why he is sleeping even if he said it was ok Because it does not look good. all her ex has to do is knock on the door when he gets to her house. She may not be doing anything wrong but she is being very unfair to you. she needs to realize she is with you not him.
2007-09-23 21:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should back away from the situation for now since they are still married. You have a problem that her husband carries their son in and puts him in bed? Sounds to me like for that brief moment everyone is where they are supposed to be. Don't stand in the way of any possible reconciliation between this kid's mom and dad.
2007-09-23 20:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by ozzman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, not being unfair, it is okay to feel uneasy. What is unfair is to bottle up this feeling inside and unleash it on your girl when she had no idea because you never told her. You have to talk with her and let her know. Let her know you trust her, but feel uneasy with the arrangement they have going on.
It is not unreasonable to have her slightly alter their arrangement if someone she cares about feels uneasy. It is a modest request as long as you meet her halfway. Don't expect anything drastic to change, and if she doesn't don't blow up.
2007-09-23 20:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Francisco B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business even though I understand your concern. She's taking a risk by being asleep or by leaving the key under the mat. It sounds as though they have an amicable split, so let it be and MYOB!
2007-09-23 20:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's ok for you to be uncomfortable with the situation but ultimately, you have to respect how she and her ex decide to handle it. Tell her you're uncomfortable and maybe she can find some other way to handle this situation, but if this is what works for them then you will just have to get used to it. The kid will always be the priority!
2007-09-23 20:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by kwest 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋