I've never come out. But, I was wondering if anyone unexpectedly ended relationships because they were not accepted. Lost a close friend that you thought would be there for you? I thought I had some people I wanted to tell, until they said something... negative. So I won't tell them, but are they worth keeping as friends? I'd like to hear other people's experiences.
2007-09-23 12:50:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I lost some so called friends, which really upset me at first but over time i came to realise that i was much better off without those sort of people around me.
I think you should come out when your ready and if someone is negative about it, then they don't deserve to be your friend in the first place. Good luck.
2007-09-23 12:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Widgi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends I went to college with...I went to a bible college...that I will probably never tell I'm a lesbian. But they are also the people I don't have contact with every day so it doesn't matter if they know or not.
Thankfully, the people who I have told have all been supportive. When I first came out to my mom, she was a little weirded out by it. But she eventually came around to the idea and has gotten used to it. It took a little while and we had some tearful nights, but we got through it together. Now I can talk to Mom about my girlfriends and I don't have to feel like I'm lying to her every time I leave the house.
2007-09-23 13:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by cjcregg227 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most unsupportive person in my life was my mother. She tried everything to change me, from saying, its just a phase, and even why dont you try a different hair style and stop hanging around with lesbians. Which was totally a mute point, because I played softball on a team that half were gay. I also had a good friend that came out just before I did. I TOTALLY supported her, I even ran interference with her and her husband. But, when I came out, she turned her back on me, as did most of the people on the team. The friends I had before, most of them are still my friends. They dont care if I am gay, I am still the same person they knew before.
2007-09-23 17:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever be ashamed of who you are if your friends turn there back on you than make some real friends and tell your old ones to kiss your *** when i came out I'm a gay man by the way but when i came out i lost the best friend i ever had we did everything together and when i told her she just never talked to me again it hurt me very bad but now i know that she was never really a friend if she was than it would not have made a difference
2007-09-23 21:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by tommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost all my 'close' friends when I came out to them: they were all christian (as I was). They told me I needed counselling and even having the demon of homosexuality cast out of me.
They wouldn't talk to me afterward and when I saw their parents at the mall.... they just looked away and kept walking! That's after over 10 years of 'friendship'.
It took me a year before I would come out again. I came out to a straight buddy of mine, after 1 yr of friendship.... he looked at me, opened his arms, and said, "Give me a hug".!!!
He was not christian. After that, I was coming out left, right and center. All the non-christians I told had absolutely NO problems whatsoever.
2007-09-23 21:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by stevemeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know if I did come out now as a sophmore in high school I would lose all my friends and have all girls as friends.
2007-09-23 16:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋