Lately, my friend's husband has been making odd comments here & there about my chest or getting me naked. He's always been drinking when these comments are made, and sometimes he says them in front of his wife...sometimes not. So I usually just ignore them, but this last one really caught me off guard. I knew he wasn't at all serious, but I still snipped at him for saying something about sexual favors. because I am totally not that kind of girl and he should know that! and the conversation got even more uncomfortable that I started blushing--. so he pointed that out and finally admitted that was his goal--to see me squirm.
now here's my question: is he just being an idiot when he's had too much to drink? Maybe it's a weird game to see how long it takes for me to be uncomfortable or dish back--which I'm not very good at. OR is there some sort of 'wishful thinking' going on?
What do you all think?
2007-09-23 12:27:56 · 12 answers · asked by TeddyJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did mention the really uncomfortable incident to my friend that same evening. and she was so embarassed of his behavior: we both think he has a drinking problem. But that's still no excuse for crude comments. He's usually not around when me & my friend hang out, but when he is, those stupid comments come out when he's drinking. So you all are correct: I need to be the one to set him straight and smack some sense into him. Thanks for your input.
2007-09-23 13:01:39 · update #1
Totally inappropriate.
What kind of ignorance prompts someone to make statements which have the exact purpose of putting
a person ill at ease.
I think he should be told firmly and politely that you will no longer entertain any more of those comments from him.
If there is a repeat he will no longer be welcome company of yours.
Leave it at that.
2007-09-23 12:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that is rude. Some guys are just pigs. If you've already said something to this rude motherf_cker and he still keeps on, it's time to tell your husband to step up and say something. And take the initiative. Tell him you don't want this jerk in your house anymore or next time you will smack him for his rude comments.
I doubt it's wishful thinking, though it could be. Some guys are just pigs and think this kind of thing is funny. My ex had a friend like that. God, he was SO rude and gross. I finally told my ex I didn't want him in my house anymore and he stopped coming over.
Problem solved. Unless you LIKE it...
2007-09-23 12:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to relate to that since I don't drink and can't imagine coming on to a wife's friend, but I think yeah, somewhere inside there's some wishful thinking going on, although expressed pretty crudely. I think he was just playing it off since he could tell you were getting upset about it. I'd stay away from the guy, personally.
2007-09-23 12:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Babe is Armed! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my ex's friend's was always oogling me. He did eventually kiss me during a party one night, but nothing ever happened. I did tell my ex. My ex said he was just drunk. He has made passes at me since my divorce also, but that was the only time during my marriage. Sometimes they are all talk and back down if you play along. Sometimes it doesn't play out that way though.
2007-09-23 12:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really think that if you responded positively to him he wouldn't follow through?
Don't be alone with the guy and do your friend a favor and straighten his butt out. You're right, he's an idiot and no, it's not normal.
2007-09-23 12:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by ozzman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wants you naked... and likes the chase... but probably can't come out and say it without some dutch courage...
are you attracted?? or interested???
if not, just ignore it or make some comment about his manhood...
and if his wife isn't against him saying these things, then either she is used to it or might be interested in a 3sum.. :D
2007-09-23 12:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only is not normal, but its rude. I will admit that my wife has some cute friends. But i keep that to myself, and would never say anything to them. Kind of childish for him to keep doing that
2007-09-23 12:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Love the west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a freak , he likes to be in control of women , have you taken notice of how he treats his wife ? is she quiet , reserved , polite , catering to all his needs?.
Why hasnt your husband stood up for you and sorted this jerk out?.
2007-09-23 12:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not normal and don't kid yourself into thinking he isn't serious either. he's checking things out and if given the chance, you'd see just how deliberate his comments are. stay away from this guy at all costs unless you like big drama.
2007-09-23 13:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wishfull thinking, mostlikely but if you did give in and indicated that you would do it , he'd probably back peddle pretty quick. He's just being an idiot.
2007-09-23 12:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋