I think that my wife should serve "her man", but see says she doesn't do that. I think that she should put cake and ice cream on my plate and serve me when we are at family gatherings etc. . (girls, It was a "help yourself" as you want type of service- the wife) I think she should plate my meal and serve it to me. What are your opinions on this? I, the wife, think that he can serve himself and needs to quit whinning, he isn't helpless.
2007-09-23 12:10:42 · 14 answers · asked by doug g 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This question was written by my wife and in her context
2007-09-23 12:35:02 · update #1
No one said it was serve yourself she just dug in and helped her self we hadn't even lit candles or sang happy birthday.
2007-09-23 13:05:15 · update #2
I understand ur frustration believe me I do. But I also take care of my man wherever we are. Thats just me and my nature- I extend that to most of the people around me.
2007-09-23 12:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the cooking in my household and often plate the meal and serve it to him. Sometimes I even make homemade ice cream and serve it to him. However, that's not b/c he expects to be waited on hand and foot just b/c he's a guy, which seems to be your situation. If he had an attitude like that, I wouldn't do it.
Also, he came to the relationship equipped with a Rainbow Vac, and does all the vacuuming. :-)
2007-09-23 19:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I serve my husband most of the time, he's my sweetheart. However at his daughter's wedding when he sat and ate with the daughter's mother (bridal party) then later came to my table and asked me for desert I ignored him. It was a matter of steam still coming out the top of my head, however ;my sister n law got the cake for him. He was totally innocent of the matter we both had no idea about it and I realized that was why we never got an invitation.
2007-09-23 19:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Titus12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I like to take care of my husband like that. I like to make him a drink when he gets home (if he wants one), to refill his glass at dinner or bring him seconds. Although he usually tries to do it himself, I tell him to stay seated and i will take care of it (he doesn't always listen and often times does it on his own anyway). This is a personal preference, I enjoy taking care of him. *However* if he *expected* it of me, it would be completely different. I'm not a maid, I'm his wife and if I do things like that it's because i love him, not because it's my duty to do so.
On the other hand, he often does the same for me, especially when we are in a place where he is more comfortable than I am (his family or his friends' homes). *He* is the one bringing me food and refilling my glass. So it works both ways.
Try taking care of yourself; you're a grown man. Maybe once she sees you can take care of yourself, her attitude towards serving you will change. I wouldn't want to serve a man who acted like a child either. And try taking care of her every once in a while.
2007-09-23 19:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by isaacsprincess79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the wife on this one. Don't ever trust your wife at a buffet! She'll give you all kind of healthy crap to try to make you lean and mean like when she first met you, and if you let her do that you'll never get rid of her.
Joking! Only Joking!
Seriously, I do agree with the wife. I always have a tendency to go the other direction. It's more common for me to get dessert for her than the other way around. Even at home, if I'm getting up, I always grab her glass to refill it and ask if she needs anything else. It's just polite.
2007-09-23 19:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by The Babe is Armed! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think the wife "has" to serve her husband at family functions, but I was raised in a traditional Southern family, and as any good Southern Belle will tell you, we don't "have" to do lots of the little extras we do for our men...we do them because we want to.
2007-09-23 19:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by CateCarter27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nice to serve him. But also there comes a time when he can do it himself. Do you the husband ever serve your wife?
2007-09-23 19:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by BLONDIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, you're the wife and not the wife? whatever. i do some serving, but not out of any feeling of obligation. if i'm getting cake i know he'll want some too. or if i don't want any he still will. i'm usually looking for something to do anyway. but again it's not out of any sort of duty-calling. it's just me thinking he'd probably like some.
2007-09-23 19:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have served the cake and ice cream then pulled your rear off the chair pulled your pants down and shoved up your keiber pass , get my drift?
2007-09-23 19:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not completely helpless.. he should be able to do his own stuff. I never expect my wife to wait on me hand and foot. Unless she asks if she can get something for me.
2007-09-23 19:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by rollinhardcarclub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋