Do you feel its proper for children as young as 6/7 to be exposed to NA and it's influences?eglisten@meetings

Question

My husband(we've been seperated for almost 6 yrs now & no chance at reconcile)has been taking our two children ages 7&9 yrs.to his NA meetings and I do not like the idea of that at all.(#1.Do you think Im being over-protective?)While I support his decision to go;I don't like them listening in to people telling their stories(which I am sure tend to go towards R-rated at best)and even feel that some people that attend the meetings should not be in the same enviornment as my children.Recently,I went to deliver an important message to him at his evening meeting and when I pulled up in the parking lot (which is located in an alley behind a church)I see my 2girls sitting in a car alone with another little girl the same age.I sit and observe for as long as I could stand it w/o exploding(he was in another room around 2corners with the door shut-our kids weren't even in his line of sight!)2see if there may be an adult supervising&there was none.#2.Should young kids be influenced by NA meetings?

Answer 1

I see your concern. They should not be left unattended. It would be nice if they could have some toys or books to entertain themselves while in a far corner of the room. They are probably too young and bored to be really interested in what's going on, and if they do understand it, it's good that they know that their father is trying to deal with his problem, but in a perfect world I wouldn't think they needed to be exposed to it, but I also wish they didn't have to watch their parents argue - that is probably just as bad, if not worse for them. Have you tried offering to watch them while he's in the meeting?.

Answer 2

Yes they should, but not like that. You are being overpertective becasue your being "almost" neglectful. Your childern are not living perfect lives so the sooner they know WHY the sooner they can adapt. That aside them being by themselves like that wasn't fair, they NEED to be in there own meetings, its called, man were is that... AL-Anon. That's it! You to, becasue your a co-dependent! Becasue you married him, you all actually need help, no offense my parents tried that route, but unless your going to support them and talk to them about it, it well do more harm then good, really we are ina specially situation with kids, were we don't need to expose them to more then were comfrontable talking to them about, but when they are, its time to talk.... HONESTY! But your right don't think your ex is doing it right at all, besides that the NA people should know better then to do that, so not a good bunch of NA'ers anyways, but AL-Non would be a good idea for all of you, trust me, well be full of mothers just like yourself, who know what they were worth, easier then doing it by yourself!

Answer 3

what's N.A.? nudity anonymous? leaving children in a car is definitely wrong and he shouldn't EVER do that....it's irresponsible