My husband and I are renting a room to someone who doesn't bother to help out around the house. He sits in our living room watching our television and eating the meals that I've cooked and even when asked, seems to have a problem pulling his weight around here. Add to that the fact that he hits my dog and is extraordinarily disrespectful to me on numerous occassions. I can't take it anymore. We've been friends with him since college and we don't want to lose our friendship but I cannot take the disrespect and rude attitude that's just driving me crazy. What are some ways that I can control my anger and not try to bottle it up all the time?
2007-09-23 11:24:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Tell him straight up that he needs to clean up after himself, and that he is NOT to hit the dog.... because if you have to choose, the dog will win....
2007-09-23 11:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to try to control your anger here. He is the one being the jerk. Friendship or not---he is not acting like a friend---he is using you and not caring about how he is treating you or your friendship and he doesn't care about how he is treating your pet.
You can only control how you allow this to continue or not!
You need to decide-yourself-whether you are going to allow this person to control you and your pet and your family-in the manner that he has been doing!
Tell him that you care for him as a friend but you can not allow him to continue the way he is treating your pet or you. Tell him you would not allow any of your own family to do as he has been doing. Tell him you don't want to lose his friendship BUT that he has to do his part.
Tell him he will have to IMMEDIATELY change his behavior. If he should hit or hurt your dog EVEN 1 more time---he is out the door!----IF HE DOES NOT IMMEDIATELY PICK UP AFTER HIMSELF AND PULL HIS OWN WEIGHT--HE IS OUT THE DOOR---TELL him you would not expect any less from your own family and you don't expect less from him.
Make it plain and clear--as if you mean it--and do mean it! There is NO AMOUNT of money worth the torment and hazzle that this is causing you and your pet. He isn't much of a friend if he treats you as less than a friend, himself!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-23 18:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
show him what u just wrote! if he doesnt change, u must kick him out, or it will carry, into your marriage! me and 1 of my best friends rented a house together, and it almost ended our friendship. best if he reads what you wrote, and doesnt take it into consideration, get him out fast! i have more respect for dogs, more than i do alot of people, if he hit or abused my dog, he is an abusing person, in other aspects of his life! if he hit my dog, he would be beaten up himself, and out the door in a sec!!! another theory of mine, if a guy(which i am) does not like cats, that means he is a controlling person, because you cannot, tell cats do not take commands as dogs do. how do you know he is not hurting you dog, while you are not there? just by what i hear, i dont care if he is your friend or not, i have way more respect of you dog, than your subhuman friend! ya know what, i think its a good day right now to start throwing his stuff out the door immediatlly, and if your husband doesnt agree with that, maybe you married the wrong man. if he puts up with friends like that, than he himself may be from the same breed, not saying he is, but there is absolutelly NO reason that you shouldnt be happy in your own home for 1 minute! a friend
2007-09-23 18:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by propoolbound 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick him out! The fact that you know him since college pi$$ed me off! He should have more respect for you! Teach the dog to bite him when he hits!!
2007-09-23 18:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down and talk to him before you get so much anger building up inside that you just flip out and yell at him, do it now before it gets to that stage and then you would lose your friendship.
2007-09-23 18:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by scattycat06 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Give him his 30 day notice. Period.
Depite the rest if anyone, and I repeat ANYONE hit one of my pets they'd be gone instantaneously and I'd eat the 30 days rent.
(And try posting your question in another forum. You might get more responses than in Polls and Surveys.)
2007-09-23 18:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would say this is a situation that doesn't require anger control, it requires giving the deadbeat the ole boot. I'm sure your anger will diminish greatly if you do this.
2007-09-23 18:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by neve_freak2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apparently he cares nothing of the friendship, so boot his azz out. But before you do sic the dog on him.
2007-09-23 18:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you wish to retain a friendship with someone who doesn't RESPECT YOU? My opinion is to color him GONE. NO ONE would ever live with me and KICK MY DOG NO ONE. They would be GONE. You are being USED.
If this continues you have no one to blame but yourselves. You spoiled him why should he change now?
2007-09-23 18:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by missellie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him to move out... It'll only get worse, get out before you really ruin the friendship.
2007-09-23 18:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by This is harder than it looks? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋