im 19 and never been kissed..sitting at home right now, doing nothing..i start to wonder how its like to be in a relationship..thats why i busy myself so much coz here i ask myself "why cant i have her..." im smart, responsible, nice person...i always believed love would come without effort...i just wait, but now im getting tired of waiting, but the last and only time i moved, i failed....any advice (especially from fellow girls)...
2007-09-23 11:23:48 · 13 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no nothing is wrong with u
it is just going to happen when it is ment too
2007-09-23 11:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by McLovin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im a dude but maybe I can shed some light on this.
you think love comes without effort? than undoubtedly love with leave without effort, a relationship will be hard to endure if your contentment rests on the other person. And yeah, be tired of waiting, nothing happens when you sit by the path and not walk it. I don't think the question is there something wrong with you. I think the question is...is there something more I can do?
2007-09-23 20:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Scott W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you.
A really close friend on mine will be 18 in January and she's never been kissed nor been in a relationship.
You just haven't been in the right place at the right time. You are young. Go out and party, hook up with people. When the time comes, you will come across someone who you feel is the right person to settle down with <3
2007-09-23 18:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret over silly little things. You're 19, make lots of friends, have fun drunken nights (But don't become an alcoholic), don't try to find *the one* until you're blue in the face and there's no girl left out there. The person you are meant to be with will come when you least expect it, and most need it. Be happy, be healthy, lead a great life, and try not to think about when you're going to meet the right person.
By the way, there's nothing wrong with you. =] God bless.
2007-09-23 18:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by JustAGirlX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does NOT come without effort. You have to shoot and miss several times before you'll ever "hit". I suggest you go ahead and ask a few people out. I get turned down 99 times for every 1 time I actually get a date.
2007-09-23 19:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. I'm the same way, always have been. We want to believe that we can fall in love in the stereotypical way. But it seems to happen to everyone else but us.
It can be a real downer (trust me on this) And actually the best thing i can tell you is to talk to someone about it because it can lead to anxiety, low self esteem, and the sooner you start to address it the better it'll be.
Find someone to talk to, a counsler, or someone that will listen, you can pour your heart out to.
Sometimes its our personalities that dont draw people to us. But dont worry. Its not your fault and you're not the only one.
2007-09-23 18:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kara C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing comes without effort. You have to put yourself out there...make yourself available. If you want to find someone to date, you need to make an effort. They aren't just going to fall out of the sky. Get involved in things you're interested in...community groups, sports teams, etc. You're bound to meet someone. Be open.
2007-09-23 18:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by cjcregg227 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women don't usually want the husband type of man straight away. They want adventurous outgoing men until their prime comes closer to its end, then they want to settle down.
Go looking for people, who knows, maybe I'm wrong and you'll find someone who will lead to a longterm relationship, I did at 22.
Or you can try online dating, that's how I met my partner.
2007-09-23 18:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. nothing is wrong with you.but you cant just wait for love to come to you. you have to meet people and i'm not saying that you should just go up to someone and ask them out but sitting at home isnt going to help you. .. you just havent met the right person.... nothing is wrong with you.
2007-09-23 18:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, besides the fact that you think love i just going to come knocking on your door. You need to get out there and meet people, make yourself available.
2007-09-23 18:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋