My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago. it was really painful for me. He was always contacting me even after the break up and was telling me that maybe in the future we can get back together but he doesn't want to continue our long-distance relationship for now. It was difficult for me to know what he really wants because he was always very upset if I told him that I am going to stop all communication with him. I went to see him a month ago and it was very nice and he was with me as if we are still together but then he told me we need to move on at least for now. I was devastated. About 3 weeks ago, I told him final good bye but he called me begging me to answer 3 days later telling me it's too hard. He asked me if I didn't want to save anything and break everything by walking away and cutting all communication. Since then I have taken his words seriously and did not manage to cut all communication. But now when I ask him to talk, he gets all stressed and sounds bothered.
2007-09-23 10:45:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I asked him to talk on Friday as I needed to talk, some clarity, I have been struggling really hard but when he called me he said he is too tired from work and I only put more pressure on him and he doesn't want to spend his time on the phone and he finished the conversation so fast. Basically he brushed me off. I am so down about this. What can I do? I thought he didn't want to loose me but now he acts as if he doesn't care. He didnt even call me back this weekend.
2007-09-23 10:46:30 · update #1
My advice is delete hid mob nr and forget him.Because he is just playing some games And he doesn't pay u any respect.U deserved someone who cares about u and respects u.So,move on and enjoy ur life without him
2007-09-23 12:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by BABY_DANYAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is obviously torn. You don't tell us how long you were together but I agree that the best thing you can do is make it as hard as possible for him to contact you.
Make him chase you if he wants you.
Saying that men are really bad at verbalising their feelings. In truth they are really bad at identifying them.
A man can be in a really grumpy mood but swear that nothing is upsetting him, because he doesn't think anything is.
His wife who really knows him says "I know you're upset at none of the kids remembering your birthday, but they still love you". At this point man realises that that was upsetting him, but without the prompt he wouldn't have seen it.
The fact that men are emotionally retarded compared to women does cause lots of problems.
If you do want to continue the relationship you need to help your ex examine how he really feels.
You say it is a long distance relationship. Does he have money problems? Could he be seeing someone else?
If it came to it is there anything that would stop one of you moving closer?
You need to take decisive action one way or the other.
2007-09-24 01:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to lose you.
But he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you either.
He's got mixed feelings and he's giving mixed messages so it's up to you to be strong and do what is best for you... whatever he says. It's the only way for the hurting to end.
It's tough but in the long run you'll have learnt how to love yourself and treat yourself right. And when you know how to love yourself you'll find loving someone else much easier!
2007-09-26 08:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by dakinijones 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet - this guy really wants it all! At his request you are hanging on waiting for him to get back with you while he's saying you are to move on? Just what is his game? It seems to me that ( I don't want to be cruel here ) he doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you either! If I were you I would stop ALL contact with him, change my mobile no etc, find myself a new group of friends with new places to go and get out and enjoy life! If he really wants you he will find you - but in my book it's all or nothing!
2007-09-23 18:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the decision for him by walking away.
2007-09-23 21:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋