People always forget i exist. I try to get their attention, but they always forget me in the end. They seem to like me when I'm around but as soon as I'm gone it's like I don't exist. They never go out of their way for me even when I do it for them (call me, invite me anywhere, even talk to me online). I've been in and out a a few different groups of people that I this happens with. They all seem to co-exist with each other, but with me it's a one sided thing. I'm so lonely :(
2007-09-23 10:19:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can't even find one person to care about me for more than a couple hours.
2007-09-23 10:30:10 · update #1
It was like that for me when I was in high school many years ago. I was shy & introverted. I was also quiet & people often took that as I was being a snob, but quite the contrary, I assure you. I felt like the loner in school also, but no one seemed to notice me or care. My mom & I talked a lot about my situation. She told me to stay as sweet as I was & not to change for anyone. It was good advice but it really didn't help. I had low self esteem, no self confidence, or self worth. I suppose people picked up on these traits & didn't want to be around me. I really was confused & had no right answers as to how to change things. All I can tell you, is to keep your chin up, smile, & be friendly & one of these days, people will want to get to know you & will like you...for you. A lot of people know you exist. Don't waste your time on fair weather friends, as no one needs them.
2007-09-23 10:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are lonely but it does happen to lots of people.
It's a real pain always being the one doing the calling and getting the group together. If you really like a set of people you could try reminding them to call you if there's a get-together coming up. Also doublecheck your own behaviour with them - are you just friends with them because you have no one else yet or are you genuinely friendly with them ?
Otherwise you could try to make one or two friends who have the same interests as you and starting getting your own circle of friends. Sometimes that's easier than joining an existing group.
A few really good friends are way better than bunches of fair-weather friends.
2007-09-23 17:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean, it's been that way for me all my life. However don't let it get to you. Smile a lot, even when you are not happy. Encourage others when they are down. Be helpful to others by listening to their problems. Try to look for the good in everyone. Be thankful you don't have some of the problems other have. Try to get good grades if in school and remember, you will not have the same friends years from now that you have now. Seek out people who have the same goals as you. Remember.......SMILE
2007-09-23 17:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Alex G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel this way at times. You are not alone. You just need to find your group that you belong in. Join a health club, a book club, any kind of club. Spend time at a coffee shop. Volunteer and you will find that you are important and so many people need the contact just as you do.
2007-09-23 17:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Merrie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh... baby, you are not unimportant. dont think that. you just havent found the perfect crowd for you yet. here's an idea.
find one specific friend. just one, a person that's like the default friend for you. if you ever need to hang out w/ somebdy, that person will be ur default friend. eventually, you will get inducted into tht person's clique, and you'll just sort of... belong.
this is what happened to me in my soccer club. i felt so unimportant, but i got close to this one girl on the team, and eversince i became her friend, she's included me in all the group activities.
2007-09-23 17:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by we_are_waiting 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that but theirs always going to be one person who never forgets or ignores you and that's our Lord Jesus Christ and all your friends that you say you have are not really your friends true friends do not do things like that so pray and ask God to give you real friends.
Good Luck.
2007-09-23 17:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by JUANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time! Feel free to email me if you want someone to talk to, I'll be your friend :).
2007-09-23 17:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kazama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to find ppl that have the same style as you, and maybe they forget you cuse you dont leave a lasting impresstion, good luck though
2007-09-23 17:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by SK8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look if u say they always forget u... maby there not ur true friends! maby u should just wait and u will slowly have people come t u dont come to them...!
2007-09-23 17:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be more out going.
2007-09-23 17:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by becker-lisa@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋