We have been dating for 3 months now.. I'm 2 months pregnant! My boyfriend Shawn wanted kids before.. but now..he says he dont want any.. I been keeping this a secret, but I think I should tell him now.. He is 27 and I'm 26.. I don't know if I should get a abortion, consider adoption, or keep the baby.. Help me!! I might be pregnant with 3 kids!! He won't take care of the babies.. I know he won't... His dream to become CEO came true! He won't have no time to take care of his kids.. I'm actually crying right now!! I have to take care of my niece and nephew because my sister is in rehab and just had a baby but dont know who the father is.. I don't want to end up like that!! HELP ME!! please..
2007-09-23 10:12:23 · 38 answers · asked by ♥Chamillitary Amberleé♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No I meant I might have 3!! I DONT KNOW!! HELP ME!!
2007-09-23 10:18:46 · update #1
But what if he dont take care of the kids!! WHAT TO DO!?!?
2007-09-23 10:19:23 · update #2
Sweetheart
My goodness. You do have a lot on your plate! I understand you being scared, afraid of crushing his dreams, that he might be disapointed.. don't consider abortion. Those possibley 3 kids could be the miracles in your life. Honey, those are your kids. You need to bring them into this world. And if he loves you, truly loves you, he will be behind you all the way, 100%.
If you know he won't take care of the babies, then try talking to him. Try getting help. Talk to mom, dad. Anyone you know who can be there for you. Don't cry, sweetie it will all be okay. You won't end up like your sister. Your better then that. You really are. Just bring those kids into this world, and love them. They will change your life soooo miraculously. It will all be okay.
e-mail me. bound4tx@hotmail.com
or you could IM.....i want you to know that you have support behind you, and you will get through this.
-taylor ( ill be here if you ever need me )
2007-09-23 10:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tay 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First off, Calm Down! If you end up a single mom, it's not the end of the world, it can be done. I was a single mom of 2 at the age 22.
Now, you need to tell him as soon as possible. You need to go to the doctor. If he tells you he don't want kids, then take his a$$ to court once the baby is here and make him pay child support. If he is a CEO, then he can pay you some money for his kid.
2007-09-23 10:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by blebert2002 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From what you write about your boyfriend, it looks like you will be a single mom like your sister, if you keep the baby. - Make up your mind first, if you think you can handle a child (or three of them, if you are really expecting triplets) on your own. If you feel you want the baby, I suggest you find a lawyer and check out, what your legal options are. Even if your boyfriend might not want a child, he still is the father and obliged to pay for his up-bringing. If he is a CEO now, he is bound to have the money for it.
2007-09-23 10:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by LGM 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter that he not going take care of his child. But he will have to pay child support. I am 27 right now and I have two boys 5 and 3. My oldest dad been in out of his live and he has to pay child support. And my youngest has nothing to do with him and he has to pay child support has well. I know want you going through. Have a talk with him and tell him. If he doesn't want it and you decide to keep it then he will still have to pay child support no matter want. But if he see his baby then he could change his mind. But if you think you can handle taking care of the baby by yourself with your niece and nephew. You could give the baby up for adoption. Have a talk with him. Good luck..
2007-09-23 10:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Proud mom of 3 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. You're stressing out right now, and with good reason! That's not good for the baby. Whatever decision you make about keeping the baby has to be the right one for you, but it sounds like you're under too much stress right now. Tell him and let him have some input on making the decision. Besides, if he just became a CEO, he can probably afford to help you hire a nanny!
2007-09-23 10:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kay3535 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "jerk, wear a condom next time". He'll get the hint. I'll bet that he'll be happy because deep down inside he probably wants a kid. It's like me before I got my ipod. I had told my parents that it was the only thing I wanted for christmas, but they told me how expensive they were, so I became determined that I did NOT want one. I would even get angry when my father would put it back on my christmas list. I was suprised when I opened up the ipod on christmas day, but at the same time I was overwhelmed with joy. Besides, if he's a CEO now, money will not be an issue.
2007-09-23 10:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't have an abortion.... your boyfriend sounds indecisive.... first he wanted kids ... now he doesn't.... and if he just became a CEO... he should be in a better position to take care of your child...(financially)... and CEO's have to multi-task a lot... so he will just have to figure out how to balance home and work.... (its a necessity!) i think he deserves more credit than you're giving him.... as men who make it in big business tend to be more responsible.... and yes you both are responsible for being pregnant... all i can tell you is do not have an abortion.... and seriously consider your thoughts on adoption... you will only end up like your sister if you walk down that path.... for one... you know who the father of your child is.... and do you really mean to tell me that you would take in your niece, nephew, and sisters new born baby.... and get rid of your own? thats a bit odd... i understand you love them and its not their fault that they are in that situation... but the same applies to your own unborn child.... the difference is ... that your child shares half of your genetics.... if the guy wants to leave let him leave (i doubt he will) but none of this is worth not giving your child a chance at life.... good luck and congrats!
2007-09-23 10:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by chrysteena 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pleez dont abort the baby!! an unborn child is still a child, and if u no that u wont be able to take care of he/she, theres always adoption, there are thousands of couples out there who cant conceive, and would happily take that child into a loving family!! and as far as telling ur bf goes, just say it flat out, " i am pregnant" and then u sit down and have a talk.
2007-09-23 11:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congrats. I think that you should keep the baby since you are 2 months pregnant and the baby is already developing inside. As for your sisters kids, isnt there anyone else who could help you with them, like take them for weekends or something.
Your boyfriend might like being a dad after thinking about it.
Hope it all works out fine and let me know what happens.
2007-09-23 10:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mom_of_2 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are in a very unfortunate position. You are pretty much past a time that you could get an abortion...please consider adoption if you do not want the baby or know that you can not provide for it like it needs to be!
2007-09-23 10:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Tawn 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋