is it human nature to take pride succeeding on his own...
but when it comes to failing, would want to drag everybody along?
2007-09-23 09:51:33 · 23 answers · asked by enki 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Misery loves, and drastically needs company. Success is a lonely pinnacle, even if everyone's cheering. I don't think it's as much human nature as personal quirks, an awful lot of people would rather kick failures under the rug, or smile and gently whistle like someone who's let out a smelly green one in a crowded elevator. Personally I think real success is someone who's quietly lifted everyone they met on the way up so they could get the applause.
2007-09-23 11:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Fr. Al 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow enki the old you is coming back huh, the more serious questions are coming out not that is a bad thing. I always like your questions. Hmmmm, you are so right I have done this before not that I am proud of it, I'm just not going to say that I never done it. Maybe it makes us feel better when we think we do better than others because of our insecurities but when we fail if we blame others than we don't have to look our own faults. We are weak in certain ways and we are wrong and uneducated in so many ways. If we admit this then we are saying that we are not as civilized as we would like to believe and since we have been lying to ourselves for so long to admit such a thing is to say that there has been little progress, however it is born in us to achieve the will to survive and the will be on top so were kinda at a cross roads do we go with what we want to be or do we go with who we are. we can change only so much over a period of time, it takes along time for change to happen but we want it over night. patience is a virtue that most humans don't have or wish to have.
2007-09-23 19:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by fire and ice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pride, one of the seven deadly sins...
I don't think it's in EVERYONE'S nature to take personal credit in succeeding. I think the people that do give the others a bad rep. I think it goes back to the early American way of thinking with the idea Manifest Destiny and the whole pioneer attitude.
I think that someone who honestly believes that they've succeeded solely on their own is lonely and NOT successful in so many other, more important ways!
2007-09-23 19:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by tiffguam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Because We Are All Caught Up In The Cess Pool Of Worldliness, And When Something Crumbles, All The Structures Tumble -- Even Our Own!
2007-09-24 10:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That reminds me of bragging rights.
People like to brag about what they accomplish.
And also they want everyone to know that if they failed it may have been someone elses fault, if there are more people involved.
I would hope I would not be a bragger or someone who drags others down with me.
But I have not succeeded or failed at anything lately, well, anything big anyway.
2007-09-23 17:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answering your question: When we succeed on whatever it is we want to be recognized for doing it, it gives us, a lot of good feelings, that we would like to shout it to the world. If for some reason we do not succeed in whatever we put our minds on doing, I do not think we, or some of us, would want to drag everybody along, if we do that then, why do it, if we will be trying to bring everbody down.
2007-09-23 18:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's human nature; it's the nature of some humans. I don't think that I "love" to succeed, but I certainly don't mind it! Nor do I brag about it.
Regarding dragging everyone down, I learned just a few days ago, that my propensity NOT to involve others in my adversities, was a profound mistake. I was up to my eyebrows in adversities, & while I keep them to myself, I just sort of "freaked out" on the phone when a very good friend phoned, with me in the midst of chaos. This was so unlike me, I was shocked at myself. I made a FIRM decison not to answer the phone to anyone until I got myself "together." Stubborn Capricorn that I am, I kept it. I really learned something, dear enki; it's okay to be "human" with close friends. By trying to "protect" them (from this awful me!) I created far more damage. My BEST friend was so concerned, she came to visit one that lives close by, & knowing me, although urged, wouldn't call again!
I believe that there's a "selectivity" about sharing. It isn't necessary to "drag everyone along"--but at least let them know how you feel.
I was writing her a letter the last time she called, & because we talked, I've had two wonderful days with her, laughing at memories, & I realize how much she loves me. I know I'll always tend to keep "down" much of what--I feel is--negative? But not everything.
Perhaps the KEYS are: Not to be excessive about success or failure; to be selective about those with whom you share.
Do you think, I wonder, one can be TOO "noble"?
2007-09-23 20:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because even the nicest guy in the world is imperfect and inherently selfish. Some have oodles of $$ and don't want to spread the wealth to those who live on $5/month. It's crazy and mindboggling to think of this world's skewed idea of checks and balances.
2007-09-24 00:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by ♥☺ bratiskim∞! ☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone is that way I care about the world when I smile I want the world to smile with me. Sometimes I might sound sarcastic but I meant well I don't mean to hurt people feelings I'm actually a compassionate person and when I see problems I just want to point out I didn't mean to cause some misunderstanding to anyone if I did I apologize.
2007-09-23 19:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your last sentence--people who do that are a "drag." Thank goodness everyone isn't that way. I really don't know what I could add to Fr.Al.
I suspect that some people are just very self oriented. I do my best to stay away from them. They either "puff" about how great they are, or drain you dry with woes. I don't mean I have no empathy for people; I rather have to! But not if it's habitual.
2007-09-24 03:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋