A few weeks ago I got an email from this girl I went to high school with. We were supposedly close, but there was always a slight competition between us. In the email she went on and on about what a mean person I was in high school and how sad and pathetic it was that I always thought I was better than her. Then she went on and on about how great her life was and how her boyfriend's a millionaire at USC and is a UFC cage fighter. She also said that my husband was ugly and that my smile looked fake (of my wedding picture that I have posted in my facebook account). Now, I'll admit that I wasn't perfect Mary Sunshine in high school, but who is? None of my other friends think of me in that way and to those that I wasn't particularly kind to, they've moved on and we're friends now. What on earth would cause this girl to write something so spiteful and hate-filled to someone she hasn't seen in five years? Should I do anything about it or just ignore it?
2007-09-23 09:44:55 · 27 answers · asked by rainbowreggie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She got my contact information from a mutual friend. This mutual friend said that the girl in question wanted to talk to me and asked if it was alright to give her my email address. Of course I said yes, because I hadn't seen the girl in so long and wanted to catch up. We are both 22 now and I've just started my teaching career.
2007-09-23 10:36:52 · update #1
I would ignore this person. She has some problems that she needs to resolve and you are not going to be able to help her with that. Anyone who would take time out of their supposedly "wonderful" life to point out so many negative things about someone they haven't seen in years obviously doesn't have much of a life. Don't waste any more time on this sad person. If she contacts you again, explain that you are glad things are going well but that you prefer she not contact you. You don't owe her any more explanation than that. Good luck and get on enjoying YOUR wonderful life!
2007-09-23 09:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by mizzofficer2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People with her attitude are not happy in their life, for what ever reason. I don't think I would contribute to her misery unless she continued being hateful. If that happened and it were me, I'd probably say something like "I know that it's such an ugly picture. My husband chose that one to replace his real picture when I threatened to find someone new the next time (famous, cool, sexy ,woman) called or the bevy of women didn't stop pounding on the door day and night. As a last resort I'm sure I would repeat my psych prof from college. He said that to tell someone that "their intelligence is showing" will be a compliment to an intelligent person and will tick off a not so intelligent person. I've used it.......it's been fun. I try not to hurt people, but sometimes they leave you no choice.
2007-09-23 17:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by nanab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore it. if u fight her back, u will go on the same level as her, and i bet is something u dont want. she probably is jealous of how wonderful ur life. maybe u always had everything she wanted but could never have. or.. she's just bored.. and have no life, so she decided to write the effing letter to make u feel bad. OR.. maybe some who was bored hacked her email and send u the mail, but it is less probable because she talked about ur "childhood"(as in highschool).. which i think, a hacker wouldnt now about.
anyways.. just ignore it. but if u r really curious, call her and aske her what's her problem. if u dont have her #. just email her and ask her, but dont detail much.
2007-09-23 16:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Linda1314 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, own what's yours and move on! She must have really been hurt by something and now wishes to hurt back! You've admitted not being particularly kind in high school. I imagine that's what prompted the e-mail, however, I marvel at the fact she has your e-mail address! Perhaps you haven't seen each other in 5 years but that certainly doesn't preclude the possibility of keeping in touch in other ways!
2007-09-23 16:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it as it seems something is not going good in her life and she is whipping you for it.
There are some spiteful/hateful people out here in the world but you can take one small step to change it, by not responding back in a hateful way.
You could blow her mind and just respond saying you are sorry she feels this way but the past is the past and you plan to leave yours just where it is, in the past.
2007-09-23 16:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back at her is to just ignore it and move on with your life. She's probably expecting a reaction from you; do both her and yourself a favour and just move on from it.
It sounds like she was jelous of you way back when. You may have been a little too braggy around her, who knows. Or maybe she's just really insecure.
Either way, she doesn't deserve your attention. Your better than that.
2007-09-23 16:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by abcdefgh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if this was a slight competition she would have moved on a long time ago. She is still trying to "one up" you. Who needs friends like that, if she ever was one. If she was as happy as she states she is, you would see it without her having to prove it to you.
2007-09-23 16:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by curlies55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most defenitely ignore it. Ive had a friend do that to me when i hadnt seen her the whole summer and she wrote crap about me. I just brush it off of my shoulder and nothing she says can put me down. So if your friend did that, just ignore her. Theres no reason for you to let that get to you. There are more important things to worry about then stupid crap.
2007-09-23 16:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Devyn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would search her down and scratch her eyes out and....and... pull out her hair and... and... give her a wedgie. Wasn't Mary Sunshine a lady wrestler with the now defunct (GLOW) Glamorous Ladies Of Wrestling?
2007-09-23 16:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by rank_peeler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if i were you i would ignore it..she sounds to me as if she's jealous or unhappy,But at the same time trying to make herself look so good..honey just ignore it and dont worry.If your happy and you know it then move on she's just being immature to it seems like.
2007-09-23 16:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by nikka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋