My niece is only 15 and she is pregnant, how does she tell her parents, they will be so dissapointed. She wouldn't be a bad mom, she practically raised all her younger sisters. But how does she tell her parents that she will be adding a new edition to the family?
2007-09-23 09:01:14 · 16 answers · asked by monique b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The same way she told you. Why should she be afraid to tell them? What is the worst that could happen?
Baby-sitting and being a full time mom is two different things.
2007-09-23 09:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Go with her, and just tell them.
Don't assume she will be a "good Mom" just because she babysits. 15 is too young to be a Mom, but she should tell her parents as soon as possible so they can help her get the medical help she needs to deliver a healthy baby.
Also, she should get into counseling as soon as possible to help her figure out if she will give the baby to a family by means of adoption, or if she and her parents will raise it. There are THOUSANDS of couples who are unable to have children who are WAITING for a chance to raise a little child. If she decides with her parents help to either raise the child herself, or goes the adoption route, be as supportive as you can about what they decide.
It suprises me that so many people assume that 15 is okay to be a parent. Just because its physically possible, that doesn't mean that the girl is ready to parent in the best way, or that she is even ready to be an adult herself. There is so much to do and learn yet for a 15 year old girl. She hasn't been able to go to a real dance yet, take a college entrance exam, attend homecoming, or even drive a car. If you are the 15 year old, I hope there are lots of people out there that help you realize what a precious gift of life you could give that baby, yourself, and a couple who want a baby. This is a huge decision, and I hope you get lots of support and advice.
2007-09-23 09:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with her to tell her parents. I often wonder what I would have done if I had been in that situation and honestly, there was nobody I could have gone to. Your niece is lucky to have you as support but as an adult who knows about it, it kind of becomes your "duty" (maybe that's the wrong word) to make sure the parents know. After all, if you both keep it a secret much longer (not that you can, physically) and her parents find out that you knew about it and didn't tell them, it will make the situation worse. 99% of parents would initially be disappointed but this is a life we're talking about, not a D in math class, so they will have to be supportive as well. Good luck.
2007-09-23 09:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by princessyumyum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your neice that most things are easy to get threw with your parents help and understanding. Let her know you have her support and go with her. Also just because she rasied her sisters doesn't automatically make you a good parent. She still has the rest of her childhood to live which will now include a baby. Becoming a good parent is earned when you have your own.
2007-09-23 09:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by wiggyfl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how do you know if she doesn't know already she maybe one of those mom who might keep track of when was her last period by how she acts you know hormones!
Becasue back in the day when i got pregnant my mom already knew and i even tried to fake a period but didn't work . But any how i was my daddy little girl and i didn't know how to tell him so were church going people and i just had our pastor/preacher come over and help break the ice,and i was 17yrs and a senior in high school when i got pregnant and that was 20yrs ago! (how ironic my daughter just told me over the phone 3 weeks ago and that because she lives in flagstaff), but i don't think there's really any easy way to say it to a parent . but like someone else suggested was to go with her and just sit down with her parent(s) tell them. Good luck to u guys.
2007-09-23 10:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Pretty Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that the reason she is afraid to tell them is that they will be disappointed. That tells me that they have high standards. It isn't as if she is physically afraid of them. She should just tell them. You could go to help her through it, but be sure it is her who tells them, not you. YOu're just there as a support for her.
Frankly, the problem is more serious than "she is just adding a new addition" to the family. She is ending her childhood is what is happening here. and at least 3-5 years too early. That has tremendous physical and emotional implications that I bet none of you have even thought of yet.
I'd say just tell them.....period. But do it in a setting that is rather public....park, etc
2007-09-23 09:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I had something difficult to tell my parents, I wrote down what I wanted to say. It gave me time to choose the right words to lesson the impact of the shock.
I let my father read what I had written, but my mother insisted that I read what I had written to her. She let me finish reading what I had written then she responded. My father took a few days to respond.
If your niece is not a writer, then maybe she can tell them over breakfast or dinner when everyone is together, calm and at ease.
2007-09-23 09:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Eric W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them.
she needs to see that its NOT a bad thing.
ok, shes 15, so what?
my sister had triplets at 15, shes now 36, and her kids are angels.
she needs to tell her mom more than hr dad. moms understand more even if she LIKES her dad better, mom is best.
she needs to:
1] tell her mom she needs to talk, asap.
2] sit down, and give hera hug.
3] TELL HER. she wont be disapointed, just shocked.
4] explain that it wasnt planned, and tat it was aone off, even if it wasnt.
5] say sorry.
hope i've helped.
xxx
2007-09-23 09:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy at that age is never easy. My best advice is for to say it matter of factly. Stand firm in her resolve to keep the kid, and let them know that she realizes what she did..
Like ' I know this isn't going to be easy, and I know that I made a mistake, but I'm pregnant. There isn't anything I can do to change that now, so I'm going to focus on doing what I have to to give this baby the best life I can...do you support me or not?'
2007-09-23 09:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went to the doctor and got proof and showed that to my mom when i got pregnant at 16. there is no easy way. she needs to tell her and then give her parents some time to soak it all in and then she needs to show them she is responsible enough to keep and raise the child.
2007-09-23 09:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋