My mom has all kinds of problems, Diabites, Neropothy, bad back , obesity, swollen leg and hurting knees. She seems to always be looking for Help but when the many Dr's she goes to tell her things she doesn't seem to do them , or says she does but I know she doesn't. She lives alone and wants it that way.. I live close by but I can't be with her as much as she seems to want me to be there. It wears thin on me ,trying to help her and see her this way. BUT I KNOW she doesn't help or watch herself including what she eats .She seems to blame it on something and Never takes any blame. She is always looking for a magic pain pill or something . I almost feel the Dr's are giving up on her also... I won't give up on her but she needs some control and I am not good one to give advise ,,she says I have NO idea what its like to be in her pain.She hasn't had a good day in weeks . I travel lots and can't be with her as often as she needs or wants i fear. It almost is effecting my marriage too.
2007-09-23 08:29:59 · 3 answers · asked by Eileen J 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
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2007-09-24 09:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she likes to be in pain (subconsciously of course). It's a familiar condition to her, so while she's dying to get better, she's also afraid of what that will mean for her life. You can't hold her hand forever. Give her very strict guidelines: I will only come over 3 times a week. I will not stay more than an hour. If you start talking nasty to me or blaming me or guilting me into not staying, I will leave. This is going to be one of the most difficult things in your life, but you have to do it to save your sanity and your marriage. Tell her you're sorry she's so unhappy, but maybe she should think about therapy to deal with her issues because you are not a licensed practitioner and you want her to get better. Good luck!
2007-09-24 20:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont' know how old she is but she needs to meet with some of her own age group with this problem see if you can find some. they have them with the hosptials. you need to curtail your visits to less then you are doing you have a family and they need you also. make it maybe once a week go there or soething. eat lunch with her or soemthign but you have to get on with your life shes not doing nothing to help her self i know i am diabetic and there are so many things these days they have for the pain and the other thing well its just taking care if she did she wouldn't have theneropothy.
2007-09-26 21:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋