My daughter is 17 years old right now, her birthdays in may, but she will be moving up in South Dakota when she's 17 but be going to college when shes 18.
Do you have any advice for taking care of a child so far away?
I'm from Arizona - she will be moving to South Dakota.
Oh yeah, my Husband is having a hissy-fit about her going, and its causing a rift (fight).. any advice for controling the situation?
2007-09-23 06:39:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I don't understand, she's 17 and moving now, or later? Why is she moving before going to college- has she graduated already? Does she have a job that she's going for, or is she following somebody she's dating or something?
2007-09-23 06:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Twin momma as of 11/11 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went through this with my son a few years ago thank goodness he was only two hours away. But still it almost killed me. The day I moved him into the dorm was a nightmare it was a small dingy room with pipes running all over the ceiling [it was a sprinkler system] it looked like a basement or a jail cell. By the time I had driven home my eyes were swelled shut because I had cried the whole way home I really thought I would die from worrying about him. I had to tell myself it is what he wants to do and I have to let him do it, if a mother can live knowing her son is in Iraq I can survive mine going to collage. The bad thing I am going to tell you is you cannot take care of her anymore you can only hope she remembers the life lessons you taught her. Don't fight with her about going because she will feel like if she has a problem she can't tell you or ask you for help. I asked myself these questions would I rather have a son in jail, on drugs, with a child, getting married to young, in my house with no dreams of his own, no job, letting me and his father tell him how to live. I wanted none of those for my son because I raised him to be who he is to choose his own path, he is fearless [in spite of my raising]. I had to hold my tongue a lot because he would talk to me about things but I knew if I judged him or yelled at him he would not talk to me so openly. He admitted to drinking when I said "if you drink I want to know because I don't want to be a parent with my head in the sand because if you have consequences of drinking and I am saying my son don't drink I would feel stupid" he admitted he had tried it my answer was do not drive when you drink and remember when you drink the chance of doing something stupid and ruining the rest your life goes up. The good part is he found great friends and now is a high school teacher and he survived college and so did I. I am sorry about the rift with your husband I feel like we moms are the referees between them try not to take sides with either of them but keeping pointing out the best things of each to the other. You are not a mother saying she can't wait to get her kids out of her house and that tells me how you feel about your daughter and that you did a good job raising her. This will be the hardest thing you have to do but you have to let her go you raised this girl that is strong enough to go so far from home to start her life you can't hold her back now you have to trust the job you have done well.
2007-09-23 07:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay in touch a lot on the phone....and visit as much as possible....men r very protective of their daughters...and it's kinda hard when those birdies leave the nest...at least South Dakota is a kick back place...pretty safe...I have friends that own a farm there. Is she basically a "good girl"....I'm sure she will be fine.
2007-09-23 06:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the best you can do is get her a cell phone on a family plan with yours. That way you can stay in contact. As for your husband' it sounds lke he's suffering seperation issues. It's understandable that he dosen't want his little girl to go so far away alone. Just be there for him and try to reassure him that this is for the best. Your daughter is growng into a strong, independant woman; it's time to let her lead her life.
2007-09-23 06:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by deborah r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to bring a lot of warm clothing with her,because it's cold there most of the year.
2007-09-23 06:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by TEC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling, or your priest/pastor for help and advice, Good Luck
2007-09-23 06:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your'e just going to have to trust her, and let her make her own mistakes, this is how she is going to learn life's errors. I kmow it's worrying for you, but just be there for her and let her know it. best of luck, hope it turns out well.
2007-09-23 06:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by nosy old lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is in the wrong section.
But just call her everyday and visit when u can?
2007-09-23 06:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by jessestfu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋