Our son has decided last minute that he wanted to join 8th grade football (he has never played before) So we rushed around to get all his equipment and spent alot of money doing so. He has attended 3 practices and has not yet played in a game. He says that it hurts and it is no the sport for him. All the sudden he has decided that he wants to quit and keeps asking us if he can.
I think he should finish what he started but I am undecided I also think it will toughen him up a bit
2007-09-23 06:34:57 · 36 answers · asked by FOXY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all, don't make him reimburse you. It's not his fault he didn't like it, and it's not really fair to expect that from him.
Second, I don't think you should let him quit. It's one thing if the coach is being mean to him or he's being singled out or something, but it sounds like he just doesn't like the running around and everything that the sport is. Make him finish the season and if he wants to continue then he can, or he can choose not to keep playing.
I think he needs to be taught that he can't just quit when it gets tough. He made a commitment to the team and he has to see it through.
2007-09-23 06:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if I agree with the 'toughen him up a bit' part, but I do think you should make him finish what he starts. After he finishes the season, he can decide if he wants to continue. Quitting things when they get 'hard' can become a pervasive habit. And since nothing is ever easy.... you get my drift.
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Just for the record, I do *not* think you should make him pay you back for it. He's in 8th grade, so he's what, 14 years old? He should not be responsible for the money, you should.
2007-09-23 06:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by gitter1226 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a son who just turned 14 yesterday; he did this with tae kwan do after we invested alot of money into the uniform the shoes, etc. So we did let him drop out and then last year when he wanted to join band we told him that he would have to use the school's old nasty instruments until he had been in it for 1 year because we refused to buy him a freaking $600 saxophone until we were certain that he would stick with it but guess what, he didn't like band either.
2007-09-23 06:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Diana A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If nothing else, keeping him in will make him think long and hard before he commits to something again. The worst thing you could do is let him quit. It's not going to kill him to be uncomfortable for a season, and he may end up liking it more than he thinks. Don't make a big deal out of it, but make him follow through. He also needs to understand the value of you being willing to run around and do all that for him in the first place. Don't worry, he may complain a lot, but down the road, this will turn out to have been a great opportunity for learning and he'll probably thank you for it!
2007-09-23 06:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kaosmunki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him quit football. If you do this, then later on in life he will think that it is okay to quit, and will never finish anything.
2007-09-23 06:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it is important to teach your child to not be a quitter and be a sour sport. If he made you spend all this time and energy on this sport he must play all season. If he wanted this sport then he has to play. Maybe he isn't enjoying it because he is not good at it well he must keep trying. Tell him not to be a quitter and stick to something he wants or says. Also he may be really bad right now because he hasn't played football yet but i bet that after some practice he will began to be better and like it and am glad that u didn't pull him out.
2007-09-23 06:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by sara d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let him quit but, make it known to him that he should not join any activities if he's not going to stay with it. It is not going to toughen him up if he does not like playing football it will just make him angry.
2007-09-23 06:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Vivian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally heart football, even play... not on big school team but with the guys, but i think you should at least talk to him and see if there's more to that. stay for some practices, see what the coach is like, even talk to the coach if you can. but if he can let him go a few more weeks and see if he can't get in atleast one quarter of a game. you spent all that money, he owes you that much. maybe next new sport you should rent gear and try like a day camp or small introduction to the sport so he'll know if it's what he wants. but 3 practices is not enough to know for sure, it's the begining of the season. he should attend a couple of games i think.
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2007-09-23 06:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay back all the money you spend if he quits. And from now on if he wants to do some thing that costs so much make him pay for it. That will prove how important it is to him.
2007-09-23 06:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that he should finish up the season but if he doesn't like it and has learned it's not the sport for him then he doesn't have to sign up next year. It will be a good lessen in not quitting and sticking to a commitment. Next year it may be something else but at least you are supportive and keeping him committed teaches him values.
Good luck to you! :)
2007-09-23 06:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋