Well im 15 & a couple of months ago my dad moved me & my mom, & brother from New York to Texas. Anyway im a freshman & at my highschool they had a college thing where diffrent people talked about diffrent colleges & they were talking about NYU ( that's where i want to go) & they had a letter thing you could sign up for information every month for only 10 dollars. So i signed up for it ( i payed for it with MY own money). So the first newsletter came today and my dad got really really mad! His saying that im never going to go back to New York ( even though when im 18 i can do whatever i want), that im not mature enough to go to New York ( even though i was born & raised there). His making me really mad!! His still hollering & screaming!!!!! What do i do? His really stressing me out, & his hurting my feelings!
2007-09-23 06:21:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
We moved to Texas becouse my dad got a better paying job.
2007-09-23 06:30:39 · update #1
It seems like something went down in NY that your dad is very unhappy about and is taking it out on you. You can try to get him to talk about what is really bothering him, but he sounds like an *** so I wouldn't count on it. If your parents are paying for college than you best approach would be talking to your mom. If you are going to be eligible for financial aid than just ignore your dad and apply to NYU when the time comes.
2007-09-23 06:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nyx 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you CAN do anything once your 18; but your dad also can choose not to pay for anything, and an 18 year old won't have enough to pay for tuition on her own. Just tell him that your very intrested in going there. If he blows up again, get your mom and dad and you together and sit and talk about the reasons they don't want you going back to NY. They might have some very good reasons, and you should explore all your other options, and if after exploring your options, if you still want to go to NYU, then your dad will PROBABLY let you go. Just explore your options, talk with your parents, and make arrangments. Anyways; you're only a freshman; you've got like 3 1/2 years to think about college.
2007-09-23 08:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Honest, ask him why he demands you to never go back to New York?
Listen to his side, and tell him you understand his point of view But when your older and its in regards to your education and whats best for you, that will be your decision to make at that time. Bottom line.
If he continues, ignore him.
Parenting isnt about yelling and screaming its about listening too. Dad should be grateful you want to attend college and have your eyes on the future, most Teenagers never go.
Keep your chin up and do whats best for you, and I would tell him that. You may not know everything, especially being 15, but you have your head in the right place with wanting to attend a college where you were born and raised.
Theres nothing wrong with that.
But I would tell your Dad, that if he insists on yelling at you like your 10 you just wont discuss college with him at all. You can fund your own education through your schooling and keeping your grades up.
2007-09-23 06:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice which college you'd like to attend. Research other colleges and universities as well to get some background information from others. You'll definately want to apply to more than one.
It sounds to me like he's just not wanting to see you go off to college so soon (even if it will be in a few years, they can go by pretty fast). Talk to him about why you want to go there reasonably, and explain what your reasoning was behind getting the newsletter. Tell him you're just looking at what options you have so you can plan everything out and you're not rushing to do it your Junior or Senior year.
I'd also suggest looking into scholorships that are given out in your area/in general. It's good to find those earlier rather than later.
2007-09-23 06:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by hamamelis_intermedia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him holler and scream, it'll make him feel better.
Another important lesson from me to you. "Always know when to pick your battles"
If it makes him happy, let him spend the next 3 years thinking you'll go to Texas A&M or wherever. Why argue about it for 3 years?
Just tell him you want to keep in touch with the old home town, and NYU newsletters and catalogs are a way to do it.
Get Texas university stuff too, and from other places too. Make NYU blend in with a flood.
And who knows, maybe in 3 years you'll decide that University of Wisconsin is right for you.
So pick your battles, it makes life easier.
2007-09-23 07:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about you moving from NY kind of contradicts what's in your profile and the question you asked a week ago about what it's like to live in NY, but whatever. Anyway, whether or not you were truly born and raised in NY, you can move there when you're 18. You can also go to whatever college you choose, but that doesn't mean Dad has to pay for it. Start looking for a part - time job to get you started, look into loans and grants to help fund your college education, and be prepared to work hard to get where you want to go. It may not be easy, but it is possible. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-23 06:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
personally what i would do is....just drop the situation with him for now. and kind of get the information online behind his back so he doesnt have an excuse to get mad about it. and when apply and get accepted tell him and by then you will be 18 and be able to go. although...your parents will probably be the ones paying for it and your dad could refuse to pay. so you may want to find a job and start putting money away now so you will be able to support your schooling...good luck!
2007-09-23 06:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....you have 4 years for him to mellow out. Just ignore it for now. And maybe in 4 years and you develop new friends there in Texas you also might change your mind. It shouldn't be such a big deal right now.
2007-09-23 06:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I want to go on the computer and there is chat things, that have bad words he says I'm grounded because I just had it on!!!!!
2014-11-29 04:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat with your Mom and Bro. Tell your mom this is what you really want and to tell your dad that this is what you want. Don't start stripping. This is what all girls do when their dad wont support their desicions. Talk to your consular and make sure that the rest of your family understands that this is what you really, really want.
2007-09-23 07:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋