My brothers were fighting over the computer last night so my mom took off all the games.. including mine. She said that if they can't have their games on here then I can't have mine either. Except, I wasn't the one fighting over the games...
2007-09-23 05:48:35 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Punishing a group for the actions of certain individuals is a popular military tactic, but is not a fair practice in general. It leads to more unrest than solidarity. It was unfair to punish you as a group and not individually. This is especially true if this was an arbitrary move not consistent with other punishments. If one person comes in after curfew do you all get grounded? Probably not, so how is this different? Consistency is a key parenting concept.
2007-09-23 05:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by ArLorax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think sometimes parents can be unfair in order to keep the peace if your brothers were fighting and your games were taken away what you should do is sit down with your parents and discuss this with them and try to come up with some kind of agreement. you might half to make some Scarface's in order to get what you want and don't be one sided because if you get what you want then your brothers will think that they are being treated unfairly so try to come up with some thing that is fair for all
2007-09-23 06:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems a little harsh, but my dad was the same way- He said if one kid screws up, they all get into trouble!
His other two kids didn't live with us, they lived with his first wife and only visited during the summer, so I had it pretty easy most of the year! But yeah..... that sounds familiar!
It will pass! Just don't make a big deal out of it, then later ask your mom why she made her decision to include your games. Wait until you are alone- and don't make a big scene out of it. Maybe she'll let you have yours back.
2007-09-23 05:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfair, yes, but look at it from her standpoint--if she had left yours on, then that would have only provoked your brothers, so she actually did you a favor. They will not be mad with you. Be patient. Give her some time to cool off, the politely request that the games go back up, get whatever promises you can from your brothers and its up to you to hold them to it. Good luck.
2007-09-23 05:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it may be unfair. but as a mom, i understand why they did it... it is easier to cut everybody off then only one or two.. this way everyone suffers and is reminded to have manners and patience... wait a while then ask for yours back.... if you show the parents you are behaving then they will probably give the games back without a problem....
2007-09-23 05:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't sound fair. But if your games were on the computer your brothers might have the tendency to play them, so I know where they are coming from.
2007-09-23 05:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents don't need any more headaches. To resolve the situation, they removed all the "games." Thus, there would be no excuse for the "wrongdoers" to get hold of your "game" and continue playing it. Sometimes the "good" do have to suffer with the "wrong." I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-09-23 05:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She'll probably give your games back to you once the fight has subsided. It's standard operation for parents to jerk all rights of everyone in the house to prevent "but so and so can still...".
2007-09-23 05:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are being unfair. You haven't done anything, so why have you been punished? That sounds like bad parenting skills right there.
2007-09-23 05:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by That Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think your parents had to do what they had to do.But i think it was wrong to your games off too.Try talking to them.It may help .Sounds like your brothers are the ones that should be in trouble not you.So just try talking to your mom and dad.Tell them you feel. thanks,suzy
2007-09-23 06:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋