hi im 18 and i kinda have a problem with going out atm
ever since i was 17 i kept saying when im 18 i will be able to do everything that i want but now that i am 18 i cant bear myself to do this? i will promiss my best friend to go out with him then on the day totally not want to go and either end up going unhappy or not go at all.
its upsetting me but i dunno what it is down to
when i was about 15 though my mum was very protective over me and wouldent allow me to go out with my friends i dunno if this has anything to do with it
how do i get over this?? please help
2007-09-23 05:17:38 · 13 answers · asked by Mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow - I know this feeling!
I get grief off my wife all of the time because of it!
I think that it's a family thing - or even more a gene thing!
My reasoning - My Grandfather and his family never really went anywhere... he died at 87 having never taken a day off work despite having a "dodgy" dis-located hip since 16 yo! The never taken a day off thing extends to holidays - my grandparents never had a holiday - they saved their ££ (under the mattress) "for a rainy day".
Now, I'm not the same re. saving but - I hate going out! - I'm NOT tight with ££ - if it's there - spend it!
YOU have got to break the cycle... do it gently - but consciously.
Make the change.
Best wishes
EDIT*** This is NOTHING to do with agraphobia...It's NOT a fear of going out - it's a lack of desire to WANT to go out - Chelle, e-mail me if you want to talk - (I never thought that I'd ever type that!)
Do not let this feeling ruin your life!
2007-09-23 05:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't accept who you are and you're trying to conform.
Took me a while to admit writing software was more likeable than a party.
Now that I'm older and can careless, I realize that only people that say you nerd and you dweeb are the 21 to 24 year olds with little understanding of life.
Challenge yourself do what makes you happy as if there was no one telling you should or shouldn't and you'll find you have a taste for things that are sociably unacceptable among you current peers, but shared among new peers that come with new activities.
2007-09-23 12:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by erom m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find somewhere you would like to go, even for a short period of time, and make yourself go. Have your friends come pick you up, then don't give yourself time to back out. Force yourself to get out of the house. You will become a recluse, if you don't do it now. After a while friends will stop asking you to go, because they will feel it is a waste of time. Go have a good time, remember you are in control now not your mother.
2007-09-27 12:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doting mom has caused you to believe you can't do things on your own. Looking from the outside, you need confidence. Confidence can be acquired through achievement. Unfortunately, achievement requires some confidence. You have admitted the problem now go and achieve.
2007-09-23 12:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I used to feel that way because i have anxiety abut meeting people and having to come up with conversation and everything and I once just forced myself to go and it ended up being one of the best times ever...just force yourself out there and see if your friends can make you feel better about it..
2007-09-23 12:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by SB1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you a triple shot of patron with a little bit of lime (little bit of lime) a few minutes before you leave to go out, it will take the edge off. then meet a nice guy to grind with on the dance floor all night, you will get mad wet! and be happy you went out.
2007-09-23 12:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be experiencing "agoraphobia". Check this out. http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=9946. This actually happened to my love, and it is a very trying event. We are facing this challenge everyday.. if you would like more info.... contact me at ludwigkicker@yahoo.com . Take care and good luck!!
2007-09-23 12:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by ludwigkicker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide not to be unhappy - we really have no time for it. Just go out and enjoy each moment. Seek to enjoy life.
2007-09-23 12:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problome ma parents are so strict and im 16 and i never went out from the house by my self
so alot of guys asks me out but i always say no and im so sad .
2007-09-23 12:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try starting off with going out with your best friend to small places then work yourself through
2007-09-23 12:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋