or forget the traitor's existence no matter how many times she asks forgiveness from you?
what if the traitor was your adopted sister?
2007-09-23 04:57:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Wow sweety! This is a tough one! If the traitor is a relative I would give her a chance but make her earn her way back into your life!** Good Luck!
2007-09-27 00:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't handle it well at first. You have the right to feel your feelings, but don't let it take over your life. I believe we should ALWAYS forgive but don't forget. If we don't forgive, then we give our betrayer all of the control over us. It's a fact. Forgiving a serious betrayal can take a very long time, years even. But never give up on trying to forgive them. It will make you stronger, I promise. When you finally are able to forgive, you will truly be able to move on with your life completely. Forgiving does not mean letting that person/persons back into your life, to be able to do it again. You can just let go and wish them well, as you continue to live your life without them in it.
2007-09-23 05:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the severity of the betrayal,either make up or do without that person for life. Who needs a back stabber around you? Be careful with family. If its not too serious then its best to forgive, but not forget.
2007-09-23 05:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by jms043 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will forgive and forget and move on. I will be not be betrayed again one lesson is enough,whether she is a friend, close relation or any one. I will still civil and nice to her, but too bad she won't have my trust and closeness for a long long time. That is the way I handle betrayals. I have been betrayed .
2007-09-23 05:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The traitor is my ex-husband and father of my (grown) children.
I will never EVER forgive him--I hate him passionately for what he did. I wish he would die a slow and painful death from a horrible disease.
Fortunately, he doesn't cross my mind all that much.
2007-09-23 05:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard to forgive but it is not impossible.
You have to search your own heart and find the peace and let it go. Truly forgive and then in time, you can forget also.
I wish you both the best of luck...
2007-09-23 05:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by melodyahol 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. I've been through a few horrendous incidents, and I find that I can't forgive; I'd rather forget.
2007-09-23 05:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Aarien 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlike soap operas...
Nobody really plans to betray another in real life...
File it under..."S happens..."
And resentfulness, hate, and all other "unattractive" traits in people, are not worth the effort to sustain them in your mind...
Especially you, Miho...(you're much to wise and cool to do that...)
Rise above that petty human feeling...and forgive and forget...
As I would do for you, if somehow I felt you betrayed me...(but that would never happen...cause we're good friends...)
(Everybody in some way has caused someone to feel "betrayed.." Accidently, or not...and you would feel awful realizing they felt that way about you...so forgive them, as you would want them to forgive you...doesn't mean you have to continue to "like" them, or hang out with them...
But forgive them...
They know not what they do...
2007-09-25 08:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd probably try to forgive but if the sin was something like hitting on my old man, i'd never have anything to do with that person again
2007-09-23 05:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances. If I was truly wronged and cost me money and a job, after a few years I'd get over it.
2007-09-23 05:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by WooleyBooley again 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋