Is it harder for Bisexuals to find true love and get married than Gay and straight people???

Question

You know, because of the attraction to both genders, if you find a girlfriend then you get the urge to be with a man. i'm pretty sure she wouldn't like that.
Could this cause problems in a relationship?

I just recently (as in like 2 days ago) accepted the fact that i am Attracted to the same sex.

And i'm still a little confused.

Thanks!

Answer 1

I'm married and bisexual. I didn't marry until I was 40 because I wasn't sure what I was looking for exactly. Men and women are so totally different when it comes to relationships (in my opinion), and are both equally appealing to me.

I knew in my heart that I had found my life partner when I met my husband.

I'm still attracted to women. I find them to be the most beautiful creature on the planet. I also know that any other man or woman is off limits to me. I am not willing to violate the vows I took when I married.

Bisexuality is not a free pass to cheat on your partner.

Have fun exploring the entire realm of bisexuality. You'll eventually find the person you're looking for.

Answer 2

It can't be nearly as hard as it is for Transsexuals to do so.

But to answer your question, no. Yes, you can bring maths into it and say that it statistically increases your choices, but would you honestly say that you're attracted to *all women* or *all men*? No. Chances are that you, like everybody else, gay or straight, have your own physical and emotional preferences in a partner. In my experiences, Bisexual persons (especially bisexual men -- but probably because when a man says he's bi-, he's less likely doing so to get attention from the opposite sex), are actually a lot pickier in finding romantic or even "just sexual" partners.

Does this make it harder to find "true love" and possibly marriage? It could. But I'm pretty strictly into guys, and frankly, some days I feel like the only man perfect for me was James Dean. It takes a *lot* to get a date out of me.

So, basically, it's only as hard as it is for most other people. Yes, there can be a lot of passive hostility toward bisexual persons within the Gay and Lesbian community (who definitely don't make things easy), but there are also a lot of very accepting people, too. Heck, there's a lot of passive hostility toward bisexual persons in the straight community, too.

Answer 3

Yes, it's harder. Finding a female partner who is not expecting monogamy is not easy, and finding a male partner who accepts the female in question is also not easy.

When I was a hippie, many long years ago, we used to call each other brothers and sisters, and joke about "vice is nice, but incest is best." That concept -- that monogamy is not necessary -- is about the only way a bisexual can have everything he or she wants. In 1976, I had a tee shirt that said "Celebrate the BI-centennial," and had a picture of two naked women and two naked men all holding hands. Wouldn't it be wonderful???

Maybe that's partly what "swingers" clubs of the earlier generation was about. Remember that some called them "wife swapping," and some did not. Presumably there were reasons why they chose a particular term.

Then along came the AIDS epidemic . . . My Steve used to say, "The sexual revolution is over. Sex lost."

Answer 4

OH I AM SO SRY! :( :( :(
as bisexuals always go through a hard time because stupid ppl who hate us r always trying to confuse us.
i say its harder for us to find love cuz alot of ppl hate us.
i am not confused i just simply accepted the fact that yea i like males and i like females so im bi....i may even be panssexual now that i realize it but w/e......
idk....for me its not really hard to hold on a relationship
maybe cuz i dont care abt sex much.....all i want is affection from anyone....i dont care who it is ...and once i get that im pretty much just happy lol
oh and i tell every girl i go out with that im bi if they dont accept
then i dont care...they're not the one for me period bye bye
then i just move on....and find someone else who is open-minded

Answer 5

Sometimes it is. Most people aren't very accepting towards us-whether those people be gay or straight. Most people seem to believe that to be happy we must have both genders.. Which is completely untrue. Most people seem to believe that there is no way we can be monogomous.

That is what gets in our way.

Answer 6

It could.

I had an ex girlfriend accept the fact that I was bi. I felt strongly enough about her at that time to tell her I was bi.

My suggestion is, don't tell her at first. See how the relationship develops. If it begins to get serious, you may wish to tell her.

Answer 7

I think so, and have said it for a long time that bisexuals are not good relationship people. I have dated some and I know this to be fact. They get a craving.........it's like when you haven't had ice cream in a long time........well there you go.

Answer 8

yeah i think it would be harder to find someone right for you because you're looking at both sexes not just one! but i also thing that everyone has someone right for them and that doesn't necessarily mean that they are of the opposite sex or of the same sex. you'll find somebody for sure tho.

Answer 9

I don't think they would have any different problems than we all do. they could even have it a litle easier since they have twice as many choices. Plus many partners are accepting of a third partner if it is shared and open, and not lied about.

Answer 10

I don't think so. Strait or bi, you are attracted to others, but when you find true love, that's what you hold on to regardless of your sexual orientation.