do you put your own feelings first or someone else's?

Question

in any situation.

Answer 1

NO. In MOST situations, it is best to consider EVERYONES feelings that are likely to be affected by the situation. This requires sensitivity, serious thought, and careful words.

When you consider your feelings first, you not only come across as selfish, but run the risk of hurting other people and creating bad feelings.

I have learned to really LISTEN and understand what is going on before letting myself FEEL anything about it. Once you allow yourself to FEEL, the emotion of that feeling can get out of control real fast unless you REALLY know how to handle it. Feelings need to be handled with great care.

Examples of people thinking of themselves first are:

Road ragers, alcoholics, drug addicts, molesters, partners who cheat on their mates, physical or emotional abusers, single mothers who do so despite commitment, litterbugs, people who tailgate, speed in residential areas, park in red zones or handicapped spots, fondle each other in public, insist on writing a check in the no check aisle, do not call to say they are running late, backstabbers, liars, and thieves.

That is just the tip of the ice burg - the world has become VERY much a "ME" society. Personally, I think it really is a very negative way to be, and I cannot think of one good thing that can result from it.

Answer 2

My mom always told me to bite your tongue if you don't have something nice to say so I basically learned that no matter what someone does or says to me two wrongs don't make a right so I try to be the better person. I am also the type of person it is almost imposable to make me made but one day I know it's all going to come out and someones feelings are going to get hurt.

Answer 3

u cnt reali say in nay situation ka obviously u will react differnt to many different situations but i cnt believe so many people have said someone elses! Only u can make urself happy peopl! put urself first once in a while!

Answer 4

Always someone elses. I wish I didnt but I do

Answer 5

I always tend to put other peoples happiness before my own
It makes me happy when I see people I love happy

Answer 6

most of the time

Answer 7

Others, most of the time....

Answer 8

someone else's

Answer 9

for some reason i always put some1 else first...:)

Answer 10

someone else's every time.