Ok me and my spouse had been through some bad times as well as good. We had got back together after a short separation. Now we are both living back together for the past 5 months and now things are starting to start out as they used to be before the separation. I have a feeling we are going to split again. It is mostly to due with how he is emotionaly abusing me. I don't think I want to continue the marriage with him like this. How can I make this change or should I just give up hope and make him leave the house?
2007-09-23 03:31:20 · 10 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Counseling sounds good but do you think if you were married to a spouse who'd say mean things like oh I don't care about you, i don't love you, thats why I never even hug you etc.etc..He has been distant from me for a while =( The emotional abuse just hurts too much?
2007-09-23 03:38:44 · update #1
You must now decide if you are better off with or without him and then move on. There is no reason for you to stay in an abusive marriage nowadays so just figure out what is best for you. It doent sound like he will change if given a second or third or even a fourth chance, so its up to you.You can do better
2007-09-23 03:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him. You will be so much happier in the long run!
Counseling only works when both people want it to work. He doesn't. He couldn't even make it 5 months without reverting to his old ways.
If a man treated your sister or your best friend this way, you would tell her to leave him. And you would tell her that because you love and care about her & want what is best for her.
You should want the same thing for yourself.
You tried to make it work. It didn't. You are not to blame.
You deserve more out of your life.
2007-09-23 03:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about how you are feeling. Marriage counseling is also really good to help sort out your problems but both of you must be willing to work at it. If he isn't willing to work on it then I am not sure being married to him is going to be the best thing for you.
2007-09-23 03:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already left him once.
YOU know what to expect because he is showing you the SAME THINGS again.
This time, leave, allow yourself a period of healing, and never go back.
You are worth so much better than this guy.
2007-09-23 03:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing he needed to do when you were separated was get HELP for his issues.... whatever they may be.
abusers dont' just wake up one morning and stop.. it's a cycle, and will continue until he gets the helpe he needs.
you? take care of yourself! you deserve much better.
2007-09-23 03:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to save the marriage, why not go counseling. and if he still end up doing the same, leave him.
2007-09-23 03:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by de_bashful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're so suffering and no good will from him then leave him.
Emotionally abusing you will make you crazy.
2007-09-23 04:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you still love him? if not, then maybe you should think about splitting. if you still have hope, try looking into a therapy counselor. i hope everything turns out well!
2007-09-23 03:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by ilovecoach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying stuff like that to you then its all over - bale.
2007-09-23 03:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you if he is saying stuff like that.
2007-09-23 04:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋