Is it possible to love something or someone, and not become too attached to them - accept it will die eventually, or be taken from you - not let your desire or greed overtake you - to avoid negative emotions - so that when the time comes for it to perish, you can accept the circle of life's right to take away and give what it creates.
My point is, if you can love something, but accept it's eventual perishment, and be enlightened - you can appreciate it for what it is, not be greedy and not create negative emotions which lead to suffering.
2007-09-23 03:31:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
wow...thats good. however, i will say i disagree with you when you say you can appreciate it for what it is by accepting its eventual perishment. I feel that if you to dont let your guard down and allow that person to come into ur life and let yourself into their life fully, you are missing out on great adventures. By doing so, u are truely appriecating it for what it is because you have let that person bring all aspects into your life. By letting the "eventual perishment" take over your love for the other person, u are missing out on what "true" love is.
2007-09-23 03:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Babyangel52304 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone and loving something are two completely different things. Loving another human being, and loving a non-human ( animate -- like a pet, or inanimate -- like a car, a book...) are different things entirely.
When you love, truly love someone, you set aside your own "greed", your own needs that you wish to be fulfilled. That's really hard, but that's what real love is. The way a mom loves her kids, More often than not we say, as one responder said, "I can't live without you." That's silly. You can still live, it'll just be different, sad, lonely.
Death, separation, or even the inability to make a relationship work are realities one has to face. It would be silly not to know they may happen, or as you say "accept" they will. But you must again make the distinction between accepting it will happy, and coping if and when it does.
But again that is part of loving that person, letting go when necessary, when the time has come, or when the relationship is no longer allowing that person's growth.
Yeah, hard, but if loving was easy, we wouldn't value it so much when we find it.
2007-09-23 05:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by agawdilim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we love many people, pets and even things we own. We know they will eventually be gone, but we love all the same. To love unconditionally , we must take a chance at having our heart broken. It is what makes us human. Take the feelings out and you are not human. It is that uniqueness that makes us caring human beings. You can't just turn off your feelings unless you have none......so in answering your question....you can give space to a person and love them deeply. Men , in particular, try not to show their feelings. That's a big mistake as you are missing out on much of life. In my opinion, we were made to feel all types of emotions and to suppress them can actually make you ill or unapproachable. Think about how much you are giving up when you choose not to feel or reach out to someone and show empathy, We all live on this earth and will perish. Enjoy the time we have together like there is no tomorrow. You can be enlightened about death but don't you wish to be with a beloved one in Heaven for eternity? That would give you great peace. Death is not a negative emotion. It is part of life.
2007-09-23 04:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it more as loving something, but accepting your time to be with it will not exist forever, not in this life here on earth
since i dont think of things as ending, but as passing on to the next stage of existence, i dont think of death or perishment
of course i hope to encounter the things i love again, i really believe that we might
to me enlightenment is leaving open all possibilites, not limiting yourself to a set way nor thinking one way is the way for all
i cant imagine using the word love and unattached in the same reference , and i think if you truely love you will appreciate and not be greedy
its is not greedy to want to keep close to the things you love, and one should enjoy the object of ones love, and only suffer when that love is separated from you,
you have been given, as part of your human makeup, the emotions of suffering and sadness, for what would you use them if not for what you love?
2007-09-23 03:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone is best feelin I ever had, I have loved someone for 20years with respect and loyalty.but why im I losin it now?it is simply I lost my trustness and respect in him for when you love someone youll have to give freedom and passion. Life would perish but not love you felt. you only lose love when it overtakes you and you feel that you are being choked.never give too much in this life for it can kill.
2007-09-23 03:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by yellowfeather_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a purpose for suffering. i comprehend that the main destructive and painful events, have been the probabilities for growth, and cataylst for exchange in my existence. Its stressful to undergo in concepts this once you're in the midst of suffering, yet i think we are in a position to the two stay in our destructive studies, or we are in a position to stand up, and make an excellent exchange. in this style, we take the destructive, and create an excellent. right here passage from The Prophet translated with the aid of Kahil Gibran, has given me perception on why we go through, and its purpose. On soreness And a female spoke, asserting, "let us know of soreness." And he suggested: Your soreness is the breaking of the shell that encloses your information. even because of the fact the stone of the fruit ought to wreck, that its heart might stand in the sunlight, so ought to you already know soreness. and ought to you save your heart in ask your self on the daily miracles of your existence, your soreness does not look much less wondrous than your exhilaration; and additionally you will possibly settle for the seasons of your heart, while you have constantly conventional the seasons that bypass over your fields. and additionally you will possibly watch with serenity in the time of the winters of your grief. quite a number of your soreness is self-chosen. this is the bitter potion in which the final practitioner interior of you heals your ill self. for this reason have faith the final practitioner, and drink his treatment in silence and tranquillity: For his hand, however heavy and stressful, is guided with the aid of the comfortable hand of the Unseen, And the cup he brings, yet it burn your lips, has been shaped of the clay which the Potter has moistened along with his own sacred tears.
2016-11-06 04:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by scasso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is certainly something that many people choose to accomplish.
Love and dependence are different though. In our culture, I often hear that "please don't leave me", "I can't live without you", "I can't survive without you." These are symptoms of dependence, not love.
Love is a pleasant emotion for another person. Dependence is the fear to exist without that person.
Attachment to another is dependence not love.
2007-09-23 03:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though we know we are going to die still we love ourselves more than anything in this world.
2007-09-23 03:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by luvuchaitu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do those things, life is gonna fµck you over big-time. ☺
Doug
2007-09-23 04:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easier said than done.
2007-09-23 03:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋