what kind of advise to give woman who find out his husband is unfaithful?

Question

And that man is your brother.... but you know your brother is in wrong.

my brother is unfaithful. my sis-in-law found out and he don't know what to do? it happen a few times not the first time and i told her long ago is she sure she want someone like my brother. she thought she can change my brother and she giving him chances.
to me, i can't tell her to divorce just like that they have a 11 yr old child. but is it worth waiting for man like this?!

Answer 1

I agree don't give advice unless she asks you. Be very careful to listen to the guestion she asks and only answer what she asks.

Answer 2

Best advice I would give is to speak with your brother and let him know that you're aware that he is having an affair. As for his wife you are kind of in a no win situation. On the one hand she may appreciate that you are kind enough to report that her man is being unfaithful to her, but she may also consider it none of your business and that she will deal with it in her own way. You obviously know this woman well and must get along with her or wouldn't even consider informing her. So take a look at your relationship and if possible advice her of what's going on as she may be really upset if she finds out that you knew of your brother's infidelity and didn't tell her. It's a very hard spot to find oneself in and best of luck.

Answer 3

A husband being unfaithful is so painful. You feel like you suddenly not good enough even for your husband. You need to tell her she is a good person and your brother need to get help or he is not worthy of her and she need to get a divorce and move on with her life. Just be supportive and sometime just listening helps people work through there problems. Hope this helped

Answer 4

Since she knows, you have to stop advising her and let her deal with it the way she wants.
Some women accept to be the one the unfaithful husband comes back home to, and they try and forget about the rest.
Let her be; You can't tell her anything; At the end of the day it's her who knows what she can cope with and what matters to her. It has to be her choice alone and by meddling, you'll only make things difficult for her.
It's her life, not yours, so it's her call.

Answer 5

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You found out your brother is being unfaithful to his wife? I'm not sure about your question.

If you and your brother are close, you could talk to him about it. Remind him of his responsibilities. Tell him because you care about him, you don't want to see him throw his life away. He probably won't listen to you, but maybe he'll think about it; maybe you'll plant a seed.

If you're not that close, I'd say stay out of it. I don't think you should tell his wife. She might already know and be upset that you're meddling. Or, she may refuse to believe you and be upset that you're meddling. Wives usually have a clue about these things.

Answer 6

Is it worth waiting for? For what? A liar and a cheater? Never. It is never worth waiting for them. What you are waiting for is the chance to pick up an STD from them. She needs to leave him. Take her 11 year old and teach the child what it is to be faithful. This is a poor example to the child of what a marriage is to be.

Answer 7

I usually tell her that she has every right to be devastated. She should grieve her marriage but she should recognize that the man she married is a stranger. If he wasn't, he wouldn't have cheated. She married him expecting him to be faithful and he choose not to be. I doubt she would have married him if she knew he was a cheat so she didn't know who he was.
The fact that he's your brother and is cheating with a married woman isn't your fault. This is a very sad situation but I've seen it happen, even in my own family.

Answer 8

Not sure I understand the question but I think that the woman firstly has to decide if she wants to be there or not right there. If so, she has to go about finding out what provoked the cheating in the first place. If not...pack up.

Answer 9

"what kind of advise to give woman who find out his husband is unfaithful?" your question makes absolutely no sense. a woman is not a Him or His...You need to learn english before you attempt to post on an english speaking board.

Answer 10

Talk to your brother first, before you talk to the wife.
This will soften the impact to their relationship.
If your brother heed to your advice to stop his extra marital relationship.
Then you solved the problem without hurting the wife and living a scar to the relationship.
Good luck.

Answer 11

Let your brother and his wife handle this on their own.

Best to stay out of it.

The wife will decide if she will stay with him or not, and your brother will either change or not change, but it seems that he is what he is. You know it too. So does his wife.

Best of Luck. :)