well i am have ex-boyfriend problems.he called last night and he said that he was going to do everything to keep me unhappy.and he has tryed to rape his other ex's after he left them.so what should i do??
2007-09-23 02:27:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Not a nice situation, and not safe either. I am not sure how the local police will respond to his actions (in essence a threat that is low key and vague) and often they can't legally do much until he actual violates a law. But do you have hard proof of his past rape attempts? That could make a difference and it wouldn't hurt to make a request of the police for help.
Also try these:
1. Call a local crisis hotline and seek their advice (perhaps a rape crisis hotline may be appropriate as preventing a rape is in their area of concern, too).
2. Change your locks: if he has a key to your place, change all the locks.
3. Exercise extreme street smarts to enhance your safety (e.g. don't be alone, esp. at night; stay in crowded well-lighted areas, etc.) Vary your driving routes, and if you notice his car following you when you are going home, don't go to your home unless you know others will be there...and use your cell phone to call ahead and ask others to meet your car so he can't approach you when you get out...or if no one is home, drive to a police station....or to where police are if you see some police on the street.
4. Campus: If you are enrolled in school, talk with school authorities (campus security, counselors, etc) about your situation and make them aware of your situation and concerns and what actions they suggest and what they can do. Again, expect them to take a "hands are tied" attitude but if you don't tell and ask for their help, they won't know what is going on if / when something happens. If he is in any of your classes, talk with the instructor and other school officials about changing to another class and explain your concerns.
5. Friends: Talk with your trusted friends and see if they can make it a point to escort you. Never be alone.
6. Information pack: gather recent photos of your ex, and compile relevant information (contact info--phone, address, parents name/address, car description and license, favorite hang outs, his friends and their contact info). In a worst case scenario, this kind of info will be very useful for police, and for you to try to get this together when you are upset is difficult and could slow down any action the police might take.
7. Carry a can of hair spray with you, and keep it in easy reach. This is a great legal self-defense item to spray in his face if he attacks you.
8. Take a self-defense class. Find a woman's group as they probably also have workshops and self-help group session because, unfortunately, your situation is not a rare phenomenon.
Sorry to hear of your trouble. Hope this helps. Best wishes.
2007-09-23 02:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by wisdomdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alica you might want to consider getting a restraining order put against this fella. He sounds like he doesn't handle rejection very well and even if what he is saying are just threats they are not appropriate. This way if he communicates with you anyway he may be charged. Also you have the right to not live in fear so do yourself a favour and at least investigate this possibility. Good luck.
2007-09-23 02:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful!!! Make sure your doors and windows are locked. Don't go anywhere alone if possible. If he has tried to rape women before, has he been picked up by the police for this? Get a restraining order. If you knew that he had done this, why were you ever interested?
2007-09-23 02:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bridgeview 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a threat!
You need to call the police and then pursue a restraining order.
Listen, your safety is important....who knows the next victim will be hurt or killed not just raped. DO NOT PROCRASTINATE on this one...this jerk needs to realize he can't go around threatening women...what about the next girl he does this to? You may save her life too.....look at the big picture. Someone has to stop this merry-go-round!
2007-09-23 02:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Talk to his ex girlfriends and try to get them to report the attempted rapes.
Make sure you log any phone calls he makes to you, and use his threats and constant harrassment to try to get a restraining order. He sounds like a real nut. Don't go ANYWHERE alone.
2007-09-23 02:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. But if you don't have the guts to do that change your phone number. Or if you feel brave enough, call him and ask him why he sees the fun in tormenting other people. You cant end up letting him control your life sweetie. x
2007-09-23 02:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by NenaNeedsIt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 05:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i think you should really tell someone like a parent or relative or someone!!! that is such a threat!
2007-09-23 02:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by xobonitagurrlxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋