he or she was truly sorry for what they had done to you and wanted to reconcile your relationship??
2007-09-23 02:24:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, the man I had been dating for 4 years told me that he had been with another woman. He thought I had a right to know and it meant nothing to him. I was devastated but not enough to end our relationship which was and still is very good. Many people would say that this is a "deal breaker" but to me there are much more important things.
2007-09-23 02:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best answer on here is H chick's answer. Communication is the key. Unfortunately,most women,in fact all women that I have met are awful communicators ,they keep things to themselves,afraid to talk about their feelings. etc.
If they were communicators to begin with,the reasons that the relationahips failed was because they were not being honest with you in the first place,lying ,and cheating behind your back.
They used you for whatever reason it was ,probably just hanging on to you until they discovered that the other person was ready ,willing ,and able to spend more time with them,hence the reason you were dumped and hurt and left in the trash heap.
I think the answer might be ,is to take a class at a local college for communication,perhaps there might be a potential partner there that knows how to communicate clearly and honestly.
I have many ex girlfriends that still call me up to this day ,from years ago,and tell me that they would take me back in a heartbeat,but then reality sets in,and I do not feel like living a twighlight zone episode or a be in a groundhog day movie all over again lol.
Once you are stung by a bee,you should be smart enough to wear repellant the next time you expose yourself,and why risk getting "stung" again.
2007-09-23 05:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - this guy I dated for a few months decided I wasn't his type and told me he needed time to sort things out because what he wanted in life and what I was offering weren't the same thing. I found out that he was dumping me to get back with his ex, who he caught cheating. Of course, I never let on. I was hurt more so because I never treated him the way this other chick did but here I was getting dumped. About a month later, he had a change of heart and realized I was the one he wanted to be with. I told him sorry...I've decided you're not my type and the things I want in life and what you have to offer just aren't the same thing...and then I told him to go beg the ex to take him back.
2007-09-23 03:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but you have to give yourself time to actual recover from it. I say all the time, "you can't piss in my cornflakes and then expect me to immediately get over it." Meaning just because you've gotten over it, doesn't mean that I will be over it in the same amount of time. Take your time, do some thinking about whether this is truly a relationship you want to have. It may not be worth the headache to maintain it.
2007-09-23 02:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by That NC Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone did something to me to hurt me bad and later said they were truly sorry, I wouldn't have anything to do with them anymore because no matter what, you'll never forget. The person wouldn't be worth having anything to with.. Take it a step farther; If they did it once, what makes you think they won't do it again???
2007-09-23 02:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it is very hard to do.
The person who caused the problem needs to be a clear open communicator and needs to tell you very clearly why they said or did what they did, why it wont happen again, and then they need to make the environment good again so that the hurt party can relax and learn to trust.
No talking equals no go.
2007-09-23 04:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That only happens on TV. In real life you won't know if someone wants to reconcile the whatever you had, because you're too busy trying to not kill your self.
Ontheotherhand - Did you just confess to murder??
2007-09-24 17:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me and my answer is almost 100% NO in this situation. The reason is because they are NOW ready for who I was THEN, and aren't aware of the growth and changes that I have made now. I generally am not interested in someone that is growing behind me like that.
2007-09-23 02:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Except they had and still have a hard time admitting all they have done wrong, they want it on their terms why they continue to do the same hurtful things.
2007-09-23 02:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, My ex of fifteen years ago. She thought I was holding her back and started playing around. We separated and I blossomed. I quit smoking, drinking,payed all my debts cleaned up my life bought land, bought a house. Started running, three marathons, seven half marathons and various other races. Kept my son with me and raised him and helped my adult step daughter straighten out her life.
A few months ago at my grandson's soccer practice my ex hugged me and told me she made the biggest mistake in her life cheating on me and letting me go......of course I replied..you sure did.
2007-09-23 02:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋