I m 22 yr old and i love a girl but problem is that she is one of my frnd's cousin sister?
she is 21 yr old ad i knw her family bt nt very much b'coz her family and my family both r one of da welll know family of that town bt we are in diff business.
bt the real problem is that i never meeted with her bt going to meet her soon and we don't stay in same city although we talk over d phone daily, and i hav given her lots of hints that i love her bt i don't knw wat's going in her mind and c is very scared that if anybody will come 2 knw abt our frndship then her family will nearly kill her i m scared that if i propose her and if c rejected then i might can loose her freindship also..............
and i don't want this..........
and i knw her frm 1 month only bt can't stop myself thinking abt her 24x7 i hav seen her photo..........
so wat shuld i do?
shuld i meet her 1st be4 propsing her.......
or shuld i give some more time 2 our
2007-09-23 02:24:00 · 3 answers · asked by aashu1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you need to give her time. It is a big turn off to girls if you propose before they are ready!
Have you actually told her that you like her? don't tell her you love her before you tell her you like her! Girls don't like to be surprised that way.
Ask her if she would like to get together sometime. If she says yes, ask her what kind of things she likes to do.
Why do you think her family will kill her? Is there a feud between your families or are your families rivals in organized crime? (you don't have to answer that, but your description sounds like something out of West Side Story.)
You have to take risks in life. The only way to be absolutely sure that she will never reject you is to never tell her, and then you are really the one rejecting her because you won't face the reality that she might not like you.
Develop a firm friendship first. Do you have things in common? do you enjoy the same activities? Do the two of you get along well? after you learn these things, you can start telling her how much you enjoy spending time with her. You can't run before you learn to walk!
If you really care about her and want to marry her someday, remember to read the Bible and learn what it says about being a good husband. A real man submits to Jesus and becomes conformed to Him. He is the most loveable One, so if we want to be loveable, we must become like Him.
You must have only one wife, and no other wives besides her! You must learn to be patient, kind, gentle, don't put on airs, don't look for your own fulfillment so much as hers. Don't be envious, don't boast. Instead, be gracious to her. That means be a gentleman all the time AND patient and kind. She's worth that, isn't she...?
If she is the delight of your life, you will always be good to her,
you will spend quality time with her,
encourage her when she faces challenges,
help her when she needs it.
Surprise her with little gifts that she will appreciate, but also take out the trash and do the dishes without complaining when it is your turn.
You will work hard to provide for her.
You will always listen and ask questions to be sure you understand what she wants and you will communicate clearly about what you want and how you feel.
Love starts with communication and it is a big part of lasting love. Good luck. You sound like a nice guy and I am praying for you and rooting for you!
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2007-09-23 03:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by cdf-rom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand most of that, however if she's your friends, cousins, sister, and not your cousin or sisters.......go for it!
2007-09-23 02:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Colt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your writing is confusing, what was the question?
2007-09-23 02:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋