Your friend borrowed money from you for a house payment ($1200-$1500) and didn't pay you back for 6 months. They acted as if they were struggling so you decide to make it a gift from your heart.
However, later you find out they were letting someone else borrow money from them for a video game subscription ($15/month) and other small item things ($25).
They mention wanting to buy expensive items in front of you. You decide to confront them on the issue and they explode in your face and tell you never to talk to them again.
They send you $50 and tell you not to talk to them again.
Would you be angry with them and what would you do to them?
2007-09-23 02:13:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hurt. angry. irritated. there are too many people that don't handle their money responsibly. My dad told me never to "lend" someone something that I expected back. I haven't always followed his advice, but I should have. In hind site - you should have set up a "payment schedule" to repay the money. The way they handle their money is none of your business. Explain to them that their friendship is worth more to you than money (if it really is...) and tell them to repay when possible and maybe in payments so it's easier and you're sorry for getting into their business. If they are at all respectful, they will feel the guilt and repay slowly. If not, go on and learn from this. so sorry. i've learned this way too.
2007-09-23 03:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd be angry, and justifiably so......Your friend used you, and was dishonest in their dealings with you. When challanged on that, they became aggressively defensive...not an unusual reaction among dishonest folk!! Personally I wouldn't "do" anything to them, other than cut them off completely from my life......And learn a lesson from the experience, i.e., never loan money without seeing the bill/invoive that is outstanding first...and get the borrower to sign an IOU. Then take a copy of both the bill and the IOU and keep it in a safe place for future reference. Give both back to the borrower ONLY on receipt of the final re-payment.
2007-09-23 09:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is at least the third time you have asked this question and the answer remains the same....you got used and played! You were a real chump to make the original loan a gift. You are perfectly correct to be angry. You may as well cut your losses by writing off the "friend" that borrowed the money....now stop asking this question.
2007-09-23 10:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I wouldn't have made the money a gift. Since they sent you $50, they are admitting they owe you the money. Send them a certified letter stating that all money owed to you should be paid by a certain date (and after all this time, I would give them maybe 30 days) or you will take them to court. Don't back down. Get back what is rightfully yours. Obviously the friendship is over so don't worry about suing them and pissing them off. They deserve what they get.
2007-09-23 09:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd never loan anyone that amount of money without some kind of written and witnessed agreement. If I did decide to make it a gift, They are actually off the hook and nothing else matters. They have the right to be offended if I bring up the "gift" that I now have second thoughts about.
2007-09-23 09:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
someones not a very nice friend and id be really angry take them to court if u got proof and sue them
thats a lot of money - heres a tip in future if u ever lend anyone money again and they say its for a housepayment car payment whatever pay it for them get them to give u the details and actually pay it for the thing they want it for then u can be sure that its paid and u have proof that u paid it
2007-09-23 09:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you will have to chalk this one up to experience. You are right to be angry and hurt, because you lost a friend and your money, but you also found out exactly what kind of friend this really was. Just bite the bullet and learn from the experience. Next time you may need to get the loan in writing to protect yourself and your friendship!!
2007-09-23 09:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People crack me up. One guys cites "King Lear" by offering a quote from "Hamlet", and the quote ("Never a borrower nor lender be") is from the character Polonius who was a fool (guess that escaped his attention). That being said, it's a general good rule to not lend or borrow money from your friends, and not to make friends with people who don't have their crap together. You should seek helper friends (people with their act together that are an asset in your life) not blockers and users.
2007-09-23 10:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh he hockey sticks yes mad. never loan money to a family or friend always ends bad. you need to tell them you want the rest of the money or will go to small claims court. sorry you had to lost that much money and people you thought was your friends. but hey if you got money to give out send me some lol. kidding. take care keep smiling and hang in there
2007-09-23 18:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be angry with them.. But since you decided to make it a gift from your heart, the matter should be closed.. I'd chalk it up to learning a lesson about lending money to anyone..
2007-09-23 09:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋