How long did it take for you to REALLY be ready for a new, serious relationship?
please add age and gender!
THANKS!
2007-09-23 01:44:47 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Ashley K. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It took about 3 years. A lot depends upon how long the marriage lasted, and how long the divorce took.
I knew I was ready when I never mentioned or thought of my ex. it takes awhile for the anger and hurt to really go away.There were no children involved so i never had any reason to see him, which made it easier, but still took time.
Getting rid of the anger and hurt is only a part , I had to relearn life by myself and be completely comfortable in that life.
Married at age 28 divorced at 7 years later, lived together for 2 years prior to marriage.
2007-09-23 02:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by lori s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 49 year old woman who was married for 12 years and have two sons. I have now been divorced for 6 years. In retrospect I feel we should have ended the marriage sooner, but "for the sake of the kids" we hung in there. I met a great guy purely by accident about 9 months after my husband and I broke up. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend and was putting all of my time and energy into my sons, fearing that the divorce would devastate them (which it didn't). We are still together and very happy after 5 years. Since we both have teenagers and don't want to blend our families, we won't marry until the kids are gone. You never know when you might meet "the one". Also, I had been over my husband for a long time before we divorced. I think this makes a difference in timing too.
2007-09-23 09:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a bad, abusive marriage for MANY years. A month after I moved out I met a wonderful man that I have been dating for almost a year. He has been through many rough times with me. My divorce went to trial and there was a child custody battle. He has stuck by me every step of the way. I guess when the relationship is right, you will feel it in your heart. Life is too short and unpredictable to try to "wait" a certain amount of time. I am a 47 year old female. Good Luck
2007-09-23 09:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no intentions of ever getting into a "serious relationship" I enjoy being single and have no need to remarry or live with anyone. I do date, (no sex) and I do have a "special someone" but both he and I agree on how our relationship is to be, he lives about 8 hours from me and isn't about to move and I'm not going to change my life to suit his. I am female, and I am almost 54 years old.
2007-09-23 18:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its bobby jay its been 5 years for me but im 59 years old the things i look for are very different now as maybe when i was younger im more into a companion a buddy it realy just depends on whe you your self are ready to let some one else in your life and heart again its tuff to trust again but dont wait till your 60 like me it gets realy tuff good luck
2007-09-23 09:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female 45.......it took two years of self-healing before I was ready to let another person into my heart and my life.......I used that time to rediscover parts of myself that had been lost during more than 20 years of an abusive, destructive marriage......I'm glad i took that time for me, because I know that I would not have been capable of building a solid, loving relationship with anyone until I had learned to love myself wholly again.....
2007-09-23 09:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when you are ready, or not. Make sure you are happy within yourself, before you try to include someone new in your life. They don't need baggage, brought to the relationship.
2007-09-23 16:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Carlita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 29 when i left my husband due to cheating and beatings.I met my husband now 5 months after i left my first.It just depends on the sircomstance on why the divorce happened to begin with.Like my first.He cheated and beat me up.So it was easier to go on.
2007-09-23 08:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I ended up in a relationship right after I broke up with my ex, and now I'm thinking it was a bad idea...
23/female
2007-09-23 08:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by nupeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i am not divorced at the moment but i have had the experience....several times....am not sure i could put a time limit on it though...i guess you just know when your heart tells you
2007-09-23 08:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋