i m due in december and was wondering how mother out there handled thier exprience and what birthing option they chose
2007-09-23 01:40:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi, first of all congratulations : ) I gave birth nearly 2 years ago and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. I started having slight contractions (which I didnt know were contractions) 2 days before my due date and by 1.30 the next morning my waters broke when I was going to sleep. I went to the hospital and to make a long story short my daughter was born 11 hours later. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced (the contractions) I stood in a hot shower for hours and I was ok, then it built up a bit and I went on gas which helped me to distance myself from the pain, then the nurses changed shift and my new nurse told me I wasn't in real pain and took away my gas, shortly after that I tried to get back in the shower again but the pain was unbearable, I was on my hands and knees naked in the bathroom with the doors open, my obstetrician walked in and asked me if I would like something for the pain, by this time I was ready to commit suicide if the pain didn't stop so he arranged an epidural for me, I hadn't slept for 40 hours so the epidural gave me some valuable resting time, for about an hour all I could feel was a pain in my tailbone from where the baby was pressing but the contraction pains had stopped, soon it was time for the pushing which was REALLY hard work but you know what the actual pushing out of the baby itself wasn't as painful as I had expected, I didn't need an episiotomy or any stitches or anything. Overall the birth experience was very tiring, very difficult and painful but afterwards I felt so relieved. Just remember that you will live and that tomorrow it will all be over. If I have feel the need for pain relief with my next child I would definately have an epidural again, that thing was a lifesaver. Good luck to you, I have 2 friends due in december also so remember you arent alone either : )
2007-09-23 02:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my daughter will be one in about a week and honestly my best advise is plan for the unplanned and just let things happen the way they happen. This was my first pregnancy and I had the whole "birth plan" layed out and to say the least it didnt happen that way. Everything turned out ok I had a pain relief free delivery, (not by choice lol I dilated from a 5 to a 10 in less than 15 min, so much for the first timers going slow huh) But I ended up being glad that I did it that way. Have confidence in yourself and just let your body do what it is meant to do!:) Have a good support team and just basically know that you can do it no matter what happens. And know that at the end of all the hard work you get the best end result ever imagined!!! (p.s the pain was not as bad as I had thought it was going to be) Good luck to you!!
2007-09-23 01:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by M&M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had full intentions of having a natural birth. But after 12 hours and my water broke the contractions started one right after another with no rest I opted for some meds, one hour later when that hadn't eased I gave in for an epidural. Thank goodness too because it was another 15 hours before I dilated to 10 and was able to push. 45 minutes of pushing and the little munchkin was freed, but not w/o suction to help pull her out. They cut to get her head out, then I ripped all the way up and through my inner sphincter when her shoulders came through. Fourth degree tear. The after pain wasn't completely horrible, I was very tender...but I'd do it all over again. Though next time, if there is one, I won't be able to have a vaginal birth. Too much scar tissue. Not to mention I was very lucky to heal so well in my rear end that I have BMs w/out too much trouble.
2007-09-23 02:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first my labour was 22 hours, it was a nice calm experience where i used a bath for pain releif untill i was 5 cm then i had an epidural, it was pain free then but pushing her out was hard and i had to be cut and have stitches after.
With my second, only 1 week ago! i was in labour 2 hours and 45 minutes, it was not the calm birth i planned where i wanted to use the birthing ball and pool with gas and air for pushing, it was so quick i had no pain relief at all and was only at the hospital 30 minutes before i started pushing. Im not going to lie, it was painfull but managable- and im a wimp! and the pushing was alot easier and he was out in 3 pushes, plus no stitches. So my 2 labours were completely different but both wonderfull experiences!
Dont worry you will be fine and good luck
2007-09-23 02:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by allielea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many options out there for childbirth. The key is understanding these options and understanding the benefits, risks, and necessities of interventions! If you are thinking you would like to have a baby without medication, (which is absolutely possible) look for the support of a Doula which you can find on: www.dona.org . Another great resource for parents to get information on interventions based on evidence based research is: www.lamaze.com . The more educated you are, the better opportunity you will have to experience your ideal birth! If you would like some basic information you can find it @ youridealbirth.blogspot.com ! GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!!
2007-09-23 02:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Songsdeli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For my first I tried for a natural birth but had a difficult labor full of hospital interventions and had a cesarean birth. For my second I got a midwife and had a natural birth.
I knew I wanted a nautral birth because I wanted to maximize the chances for a healthy, normal birth. Accepting that my body knew what to do was the key, as was having a care provider who supported a natural vbac.
2007-09-23 02:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by DoulaKaren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My waters broke at 12 noon and i hit hard labor at 2. I was in hospital all by myself which didn't help me at all!! I only had 3 mouthfuls of gas and threw up all over my midwife. I can remember my doctor being there, she was holding my hand telling me Andrew wasn't far away.
I had a heart monitor on my stomach and at 4:00 all these people started rushing at me. My doctor told me to push, and i said no i think. All of a sudden all the people in the room are screaming at me to push.
I just did it, as i did Andrew walked in, and our first son, William, came out! the 7 minutes later Tobias followed.
They was screaming at me to push because one of the boys heart was slowing. Tobias was born with the cord knotted around his throat, but survived.
I cannot give you anymore advise than to have your child in a hospital. I have recently found out I am pregnant and planning this time to have a water birth. And the same doctor who delivered my sons there again.
GOOD LUCK
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2007-09-23 02:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 5 children,no two labors were alike in any way. women who can go through without any pain meds are very lucky. i had to have pain meds with ALL 5. as for my water breaking,this only happened once,and oh boy....you bet the contractions came even stronger at that point.the other few times it had to be broken at the hospital to get the labor to progress.no two labors are alike just like no two women are.everyone will labor differently. the doctor will try to make you as comfortable as possible,as far as pain goes. please note that even pain meds dont work for everyone.when time for pushing comes around,it may or may not be too bad.this will depend on wether or not you are on any pain meds,if not they have a general anesthisia for the vaginal area for when pushing time comes around.with all 5 of mine,pushing was the easiest,yet most exciting part of it all.
just think of it as every contraction you feel is only putting you that much closer to meeting your lil bundle of joy!labor wont last forever and what ever you go through in that delivery room is all well worth it in the end.no matter what birthing option you choose,the important thing to do is try to relax and take deep breaths through what ever contractions you feel.tensing up is the worst thing you can do to yourself during this time (personal experience).i wish you lots of luck and congrats on you lil one! im sure you will be fine,docs and nurses are there to take good care of you!
proud mommy of 5
2007-09-23 02:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went for the most pain-free option possible - vaginal with plenty of epidural. Pain afterwards was minimal and completely controllable with Percocet. Within a week, I had no more pain at all. I think that allowed me to enjoy those first days the most because, as little energy as you will have at that point, you don't want to spend it all dealing with pain. Pain can be very physically and emotionally draining.
2007-09-23 01:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Annabelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't bad... it wasn't that painful either... I had all my kids in under 3 hours and without any drugs...
This I don't think is typical though.... I just got lucky..
It's really not as bad as you want to imagine though... Pushing feels the best...
Usually when they start you on saline, it makes the contractions less painful and when your water breaks they tend to not hurt as bad too.
2007-09-23 01:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋