The reason i ask is:
Many of the regulars on this page already know that we lost our only child five years ago. The day he was born, hubby said, "A boy, Our Boy! :) that is what we've called him ever since.
Today should have been his wedding anniversary and while doing my chores I was thinking about how happy the wedding had been. Of course that led to me thinking sad thoughts. I refuse to let myself get upset any more. So I popped to the shed to see my usually happy hubby.
I asked if he was ok. He replied," Not really, I was thinking about Our Boy" I'm not telling you the rest of the chat but it made me wonder.
This happens with us quite a lot, I suppose we are on the same wave length.
Why do we both have the same thoughts come into our minds at the same time?
2007-09-23 01:27:08 · 47 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
You can grow to be "in tune" with a much loved spouse. If you had the special cameras that capture auras, I betcha it would show the aura of each of you as almost identical, http://www.mcn.org/c/sandyeis/auras.htm
touching and melding a lot.
It is nice to be so close to another. I think I'm jealous! :)
2007-09-23 02:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sylvia, you have my sincere, deep sympathy...to you and your husband. Yes, this happens all the time...my partner will look up and I will say the sentence! When we spend so much of a life with another, I believe we connect in both aura and spiritually...often we know what the other is thinking...sort of just pops into our heads... not that uncommon. I would think something wrong if that didn't happen, and not over just big things, but the little, funny things that happen daily. I don't think there is a day that goes by that this doens' t happen at least two or three times in this household. We just laugh and go on about our business. There is so much more to the mind than solitary thought and logic...we just don't give ourselves enough credit at times...and this is not esp, moving spoons on a table...etc. We have all met people we knew immediatley..perhaps not many, but we have met them. We have all been someplace for the "first time," yet know what is around the corner. I will look a fool, but I know there are past lives, and will be future lives. I am not a religious person, per se, but there are things we just know. And please note, I did not use the word, "believe" in any of this...I used the word, "know." Peace, love, and empathy, Goldwing
2007-09-23 04:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When people are close emotionally and sometimes physically, it can be eerie how two minds do think alike. You should hear my mom and I throughout the day. We often finish each other's sentences and might hesitate to say something then the other does! We might start laughing at something on TV, but it isn't that joke or incident; one or the other of us will say what we were really thinking.
When my younger sister visits, it's a three-way situation in which we seem to be in one of those Howard Hawks movies with the overlapping conversations.
My best friend and I wrote stories together; we also went to reenactment events and conventions together. After traveling together, we developed this rapport. Her husband would start telling me about something unusual my friend had done, and I knew exactly how the story was going to end, and, from her smile, she knew that I knew.
She tells me that she and her husband often seem in-sync, and I know my parents were, often saying the same thing simultaneously. I'll bet that people who have to be around each other a lot also experience this, such as police who are partnered, something that many movies and TV series/movies have demonstrated.
My desk faced the desk of a reporter at a newspaper office for about eight years. During those last few years, he and I started having those moments that are like private jokes, and we seemed to know what one or the other was going to say or ask about. One of our most frequent bits was; "How do you spell...?" "F-E-N-C-E." I'm not sure why he had that mental block, but the times I volunteered that spelling were the times he needed it!
I'm not really certain if there is a scientific explanation. I'd like to read it if there is. It doesn't stop at husbands and wives. It also happens with siblings and with friends.
2007-09-26 16:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by MystMoonstruck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, dear Sylvia. I've been away for a few weeks and just now read your question. Knew about your son from another question you posted, but always wanted to respect your privacy and feelings so I never talked to you about it. So sorry for your loss....you went through something that no parent should ever have to experience, and you and your husband are truly blessed to have each other to comfort and share your deepest thoughts with. You're connected in a very special way and that's what the bonds of love are all about.....very often my husband will bring up the very thing I was just thinking about and I kiddingly tell him to get out of my head. But I'm so glad he's in there, really, just as I know you feel the same way. Sincerely hope that the love you and your husband share made the day a bit easier for you both. He sounds like a very special bloke! Special thoughts, Gracie
2007-09-26 18:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by night-owl gracie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not surprising when you have lived together for 40 odd years. For us it will take another few years to get there yet half the time we find we are thinking of the same thing , including when we break out into an argument - we find the same issue had been bothering us for some time !
By the time we become senior citizens, Fate would have dealt a cruel blow to all of us , although may be of a different nature. To get through life with our sanity in tact, we have to constantly count our blessings and not shed tears over what was not or sigh over what could have been. It is a constant struggle but we have decided this is one thing we will do together. That lessens the burden considerably, doesn't it when there is somebody to share it with you? I admired you the other day when you described the prank you had played - you sure know how to keep the romance in your marriage alive.
2007-09-23 19:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Traveller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are close to someone, spend a lot of time with them and share secrets and thoughts, whether it be a husband, wife, best friend, brother, sister, whoever, then I think you do start to share the same thouhts and feelings without even telling eachother. I can tell when my husband is down, and also any of my close group of friends. The way they talk on the phone or that certain look when we are out and about. I think that this shows there is a bond between the two people involved
2007-09-24 23:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by L J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your son, it's good you can remember the happy times as well as the sad.
I know what you mean about being on the same wavelength as your hubby, me and mine think the same thoughts very often and often one of us will say something and the other will comment that that was just what they were going to say. I like to think it happens because we are so close, soul-mates I suppose. My hubby lost his parents in an accident last year and we regularly seem to be thinking about them at the same time for no apparent reason and without even having been talking at that time about them. It's strange isn't it but I do think it makes you feel closer being on the same wavelength.
2007-09-25 20:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by clara 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isnt it a hormonal thing? I thought that when you spend alot of time with someone, you become 'attached' through your hormones, so you can sense when someones upset or in pain. Its abit like if you have four women in one house their periods will be at the same time, and in some case men get pains when their partners are having their period or during birth. I think the same sort of thing is happening here. It happens alot between me an my partner too, strange. Im not sure why, thats just what ive heard
2007-09-23 01:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by SweetLikeHoney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? I don't know. I do know that we do. Maybe what draws us together in the first place is an instinctive realization that we ARE on the same wave-length. That's before all the other nifty stuff kicks in. The physical attraction, the emotional closeness, the intellectual similarities. Maybe all that is just the outer manifestation of something we already know deep down. That this person is on the same wave-length...and aren't we lucky!?!
2007-09-23 06:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by gldnsilnc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After many years of living and loving each other, talking about everything that has happened and did happen, I find that I know what my husband's reaction will be and he knows mine. Some of it is just shared experiences, but I am sure a lot of it is shared mental waves.
Whatever it is, you can't get it anyway but through years of sharing. Rare in this day of 50% divorce rate.
Precious in the knowledge that you are not alone.
2007-09-26 17:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean although I don't know how to explain it. My husband and I have been married for 44 yrs and often finish each others sentences. Another thing we do is start to say something and the other one says yes,or no.,or OK.and nine times out of ten the other person knows what the question or observation is ! weird isn't it. I am new to this site so this is the first time I heard about your son. It must have been awful for you and my heart goes out to you. My late Mother always used to say her biggest fear in life was having to bury one of her children because it's not supposed to be like that. Luckily she didn't. The fact that you talk about him and share your thoughts with strangers like us must be part of the grieving process for you so I hope our contributions help .
2007-09-24 00:41:56 · answer #11 · answered by chezliz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋