Why am I so lonely in school?

Question

Today was the first day of school(It's my first year in high school).I know it's early to say,but I felt that no one liked me!The girls were all so spoiled and selfish and I can't stand it cause I used to be be with my best friend and we wrere so popular together and we had so many friends.Everyone liked to be our friend.That's why I've never needed to look for new friends or groups.But now I'm alone in my school.I know some people from my old school but they are not in my class so I feel lonely and there is no one to be my friend in my class cause they have their own friends,I tried to talk to them but they didn't really answered me.I found someone but she just wants to chat with other girls(those with friends)cause she thinks that they are cool(but I think they are just mean).I try to be myself but it just doesn't work!What should I do?Why did I changed?How can I be cool in high school?S.O.S!!!

Answer 1

You should just wait.I think almost everyone are that mean in the first day.It will get better when they know you more,and even some of them can be your friends!And about that girl you should just let her know that they are not that cool and actually,it's not cool to be mean.I'm sure you will handle it after a few days.You've got to belive,it will be alright in the end.

Answer 2

Ah, high school. I remember that fine institution. Cliques of girls with their noses stuck so far up in the air, that they're incapable of realizing their own sh*t actually DOES stink too. Too bad they didn't realize that AFTER high school, the real world doesn't give a damn how cool they were in gym class.

Listen, I know that right now, your whole universe is focused on high school, but trust me, once you've gone to and graduated from college, all of these worries will seem so laughable to you.

It sounds to me like you have an extreme fixation on "being cool and popular." I think that only once you get your mind past that, you will find some guys/girls who will become true friends. They may or may not be the "popular" people, but they will make you feel good about yourself, and your high school experience will become a good one.

A lot of people don't realize exactly who their TRUE friends are. You don't go after people just because they're popular - you go after the people who care about you through good times and bad. True friends aren't just those people you go to Friday night football games with - they're also the ones who will help you and stand by you through adversity.

So stop worrying so much about what others think about you. If you start up a conversation with someone who GENUINELY seems to want to talk, go with it. Don't bother with whether or not she's popular. That's just shallow.

That, and the "popular" girls tend to be the bitchiest. But like I said, once they hit the real world, no one's going to give a damn how cool they were in high school. Trust me.

Answer 3

Try and make friends with the guys...unless your in an all girl school. Otherwise ask if you can be moved to other classes with some of your old friends. Its just because these girls don't know you that they ignore you, just try harder I'm sure there are people who are nice. Try and be funny, find out what they're interested in and talk about that. Don't try and be anything but yourself though! In the end its your grades that count!!!

Answer 4

Join a club or sport or something that you could find yourself enjoying. That's what I did. I joined the robotics team and then S.A.D. Then newspaper and yearbook. Soon I had friends and didn't really realize it. I was busy but having fun at the same time. Clue is don't try to be popular because if you try you are not going to be. Just be who you are and have fun. This is coming from someone whom was very very shy her freshman year! But half way through my freshman year I joined robotics with one of my friends and from then on I had soooooo much fun and I enjoyed high school and I was much more sociable and also found I didn't have one certain table that I sat at because I had friends from all of the different groups!

Answer 5

honey I was in the same position as you. I had went to private schools my entire life when we (a few close friends from primary school) and myself had decided hey why not try to be normale kids & go to government,model c schools as we were all from private schools since we started. Our parents had agreed for us to take a transfer & do a switch. So we would fill in someones place & they would take ours at our school. They had put us in different schools,for very valid reasons. Let me tell you my first few weeks where hell, I sat in the library with no friends doing work & sitting on my blackberry & my ipods. Eventually we all seattled in & got friends but by that time our three month term had ended & we returned.

Its just the start of a term,you will make it promise

Answer 6

It's always hard to make new friends, but with some good tips, I can help you make it easy. The key to making friends is to make conversation. Just by looking at somebody, sometimes you can tell what their interests are. Like, for example, if you see this really girly girl, that wears girly colors, and looks happy, and fashionable, you can make conversation by talking about girly things. Like, ask if they watch America's next top model or something. If they say no, then ask them what their favourite show is. You can talk about it together, and if you've never watched the show, say, Oh, I've never watched it, what is it about? Or something like that. You shouldn't worry, you'll make friends really quickly. Good luck, and I hope this helps.

Answer 7

ok listern to this hard u r now a lil fish in a big big big pond u use to be a big fish in a lil pond the tables have turnd what u need to do is stand up for your self and just dont talk to girls cause most populer girls a high school slors and u dont wont to be one of them u just wont friends well go talk to the boys but dont talk to them so much like all the time just so it will make the other girls jelous and do a sport that they do so they no u r like them

Answer 8

things will get better.
that's what i feel when i entered junior high, i feel everyone is so damned and i could just run away rather than being friends with them.
but now, i don't want to be apart of them.
i don't know how or when things are starting to change so drastically, but u'll feel better day by day.
and don't judge a book by it's cover.
maybe they're acting like that but actually pretty nice and friendly. who knows??

Answer 9

I think everyone is like that on the first day. If you cant make friends with girls talk to the guys. It is school to peopel dont stay friends with each other forever they seperate and then make new friends. your problem will go away if you try not to force yourself onto people and just show them you are you. that is what will make them like you.

Answer 10

you don't need to be cool. when you mature you will realise it doesn't matter about being cool, it matters that you concentrate on study cos that is what will get you good marks = a great, high paying and 'cool' career, so you will be alot cooler than those idiots by the time your 25 for sure!